Teeny-tiny flower arrangements- darling & done!

There is something quite charming about little flower bouquets! With spring upon us in New England, the hopeful anticipation of pretty flowers in the garden comes to mind. No matter what size your house is, consider making a few petite flower arrangements by using very small and unique vases. The joy and allure of lilliputian-sized arrangements sprinkled about in your house will bring an unexpected delight when discovered.

These tiny silver riding boot vases are from England. The flowers were picked from my mother-in-law’s bountiful Cape Cod garden.

Simply pluck a few blossoms from your garden or borrow a few from another arrangement, and place them in a diminutive vase to create an instantly charming arrangement… darling and done!

Be creative and think outside the box for small vessels that you own and can use as miniature vases. A clever way to decorate a serving platter of nibbles is to place a silver baby cup, or a glass (above) or porcelain egg cup filled with a few flowers.

A silver baby cup makes the sweetest little vase for flowers! Lilacs from the garden adorn my daughter Caroline’s monogrammed baby cup in the living room at Fox Hall. Placing a small, round, silver tray underneath my arrangements serves to enhance the floral appearance.

Oh! Remember to anchor your little arrangement on a tray of hors d'oeuvres with a tiny ball of “poster-board clay” so that it will not topple or fall off!

Mummy’s silver cigarette holder is garnished with a few flowers and appears to be a miniature champagne bucket!

From platters of delectable nibbles, to bedside tables, coffee tables, and in powder rooms, these are perfect places for cheerful little bouquets. More examples can be found in my book, The Pretty and Proper Living Room, available at Scully & Scully.

XX,

Holly

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A clever way to seat your guests at a large party!

It was a memorable day in May on our verandah at Fox Hall when 50 ladies attended a luncheon in honor of Lady Carnarvon of Highclere Castle (aka Downton Abbey). As the hostess of the event, I chose to sit on one side in the center of the table, with Lady Carnarvon seated across from me. Having your guest of honor seated in the center, it allows them to engage with even more guests than if they are seated at one end. When I stood up to propose a toast, it enabled guests to hear me on my right and left, versus having to shout from one end of the endlessly long table! Photo credit: Deb Key

With Easter upon us, and splendid spring galas approaching and celebratory weddings ahead, I was inspired to discuss two seating options for large gatherings.  

A clever seating arrangement, one I had not heard of before, is “New York seating.”  My precious friend in Arizona, who has always been a terrific cheerleader for my newsletter, recently reached out to share this seating technique with me! In essence, unlike alternating boy-girl seating, New York seating has a guest seated with their spouse on one side of them, and someone of the same gender on the other side. 

For example:

I would have Stuart on one side, and a lady guest whom I may not know, on my other side. Essentially, it is a lady, with her husband on one side, and another lady on her other side… on and on. 

At a wedding, a large gathering, and especially, at a long table, every hostess strives to create a seating plan that will graciously mix people together.  New York seating gives someone from their own gender to talk to on one side, and one’s spouse on the other side. My friend said, with a wink, “It prevents the business tycoon from being stuck between two women who may wish to talk about more feminine topics like children or fashion! And for shy guests, it creates a comfort zone. It doesn’t work with all numbers, but when it does, it is like magic!” 

The table was set for a ladies' luncheon, but the next time I host a dinner for mixed couples, on a similarly long table, I will try the New York seating arrangement!

Another seating example is to have the host and hostess sit across from one another in the center of the table, versus at either end of the table.  This way, they both have the opportunity to engage with more of their guests, either on their right and left, or across the table as well. And, the amusing aspect of this seating arrangement?  It allows the couples to “play footsie” with one another.
XX,

Holly

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Place Cards: A “no-no” for a dinner guest!

On top, are examples of place card holders that I have collected through the years, along with two place settings at elegant dinner parties that I have attended.

We all know how much effort it takes to host a memorable, seated dinner party for our guests!  One aspect that takes time and considerable thought is the seating placement.  A place card (or seating card) tells a guest where they will be seated at the table. Guests tend to appreciate place cards because they serve to confirm that the host cares about creating an atmosphere for delightful and engaging conversation between their guests. They also serve to eliminate that awkward dance of “where should I sit?” out of the equation!  With that in mind, I received this from a darling subscriber:

“I was recently at a beautiful dinner party where the hostess no doubt had made every effort to thoughtfully prepare her seating plan.  I was aghast to see a couple of guests rearranging the place cards to seat themselves in a different location than where the hostess had planned for them.  REALLY??? Have you ever had this happen?  The hostess was quietly gracious but I’m sure she was filing this behavior away for future reference… can you spell, faux pas?!!”

Oh, dear! Changing the placement of a place card is a BIG no-no for a guest!  I have indeed witnessed this at larger functions, i.e., weddings. 

 As a guest, remember that a dinner invitation is a gift to you from the host, and thus, your seating placement is not something to be tossed aside at will. Showing gratitude for being invited, and respect for an appointed seat at the table, is something to be revered… especially if you wish to be invited back!   

If there is not a place card present, the host may direct a guest to their seat, or the guests may choose where they wish to be seated. 

Outside of our family, place cards are on our table for dinner parties, but not necessarily for parties of six or less. Why not for six?  “Six seats itself,” is a saying that my precious English friend shared with me. It translates to three couples who can easily seat themselves to be equally integrated with their seating placement, alternating boy & girl!

Six option 1:  The host and hostess are seated at either end of the table,  while one couple is seated on either side of the table, either together as a couple, or mixed.  

Six option 2: Three guests face one another in the center of a long table. For example, two lady guests with the host in between on one side, and two gentlemen guests with the hostess in between.

Scully & Scully have a charming selection of place card holders and kindly photographed my favorite one. While it would normally be placed above the place setting, it is on top of the handsome snaffle bit plate for a closer look!

Grandmillenial tips:

Place cards need to be legible! I use gold ink, black ink, and even pink ink, go figure!

For a formal dinner, black or gold ink is used, and a title (Ambassador, General, etc.)  may be included with the first and last name. 

For an informal dinner, using just the first name is acceptable.  

A place card may be displayed in a place card holder, or it may also be arranged above the dinner plate, centered on the place setting, or placed above the forks. 

A folded (tented) place card does not require a holder. 

For business functions, a tented card may be larger than a regular place card, and it may have the person's name printed on both sides so that others sitting at the table can also see whom they are addressing at the meeting.

The paper color and design are the same for both the place card, the menu card, and also, the table card (indicating the table number) for larger functions.

At a seated function, especially with more than one table, when a guest does not show up, the entire place setting and chair may be requested to be removed by the serving staff. Then, the other guests can scoot closer together without having an empty gap in the table seating… which is much more conducive to imparting lively conversation!

It has been a delight to collect various place card holders to complement various themes, celebrations, and seasons.  What are some of your favorites? 

XX
Holly

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Photo "No-No's!" Part II

Every time I enter The Breakers Hotel in Palm Beach, I am visually captivated by the grand floral arrangement in the front hall. I adore photography and instantly want to capture their ever-evolving enchanting arrangement! It is always thoughtful and polite to ask permission first.

Oh, my gracious!  I received so many enthusiastic, positive responses to my last letter about “photo no-no’s.”  I thought you might enjoy reading a few, which touch on other aspects of privacy in reference to photography: 

  • “Oh yes, it is one of those boundaries, alas, which is becoming ever more porous.”

  • “I had someone visit once and I never saw him take any photos. A few days later, I saw several photographs of my place on his Instagram page. I felt so violated!”

The comment below is worthy of your consideration for those posting photographs on social media. 

  • “Another detail of which I wish people would be mindful of is posting on social media and then, tagging the location! I’m happy for people to take family photos while visiting us at our summer home. They can even use the photographs on their Christmas cards, etc., but please, leave the location of my “empty-for-8-months” vacation home off of social media posts!”

  • “I hosted a party at my two-story home and was rather surprised when I discovered that a few guests helped themselves to the upstairs level, which they knew were the private bedrooms. I wonder if they took photographs while upstairs?”

As enticing as a staircase or a “hall to somewhere” is, without an invitation from the host to visit those areas, they should be considered private and off-limits!  Do you agree?  

Another VERY important no-no: never photograph children, whom you don’t know, without asking permission first! This just happened to me at a Palm Beach hotel pool. A female guest seated near the pool started taking several pictures of my adorable little granddaughter who was in the pool. Yes, it is flattering to know someone appreciates how darling your child is, but it is also very disconcerting not knowing who she was, why she was taking pictures of my granddaughter… and how they would be used. 

Our darling daughter and daughter-in-law, in our living room at Fox Hall, have champagne in hand at a private, family celebratory moment. Mind you, I did ask for their permission to use it!

Photo credit : Paola Kaoud

In a previous letter, I wrote about not having a drink in your hand when “posing” for a photo at a party or business function. So, with that in mind, I will conclude with remarks sent to me from a southern subscriber. I adore her sense of humor!

  • “Great article! Also, I never want to be photographed with a drink in my hand, unless it is a special celebratory occasion where everyone is offering “cheers” with a beautiful champagne flute. My southern roots will not allow it! It’s just like a woman drinking a beer straight out of a bottle… someone, get me the smelling salts! Just one of my pet peeves, like badly chipped nail polish in public… more smelling salts, please!

My appreciation to you for your thoughtful comments, and also for inspiring me with additional topic ideas!

XX
Holly

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A “photo no-no!”

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For our son’s 40th birthday party, we had our favorite bagpiper to commence the evening and over 100 guests came to celebrate! We invited his Rollins College friends to gather by the bagpiper for a photograph together. (Our son, Stuart III, is the fourth gentleman down the steps, and our daughter, Caroline, is at the bottom of the steps!)

Isn’t it divine to be able to visit and party with friends in their homes again after the endlessly long covid hiatus?  So many people have refreshed their interiors, which in turn, serves to enchant newly invited guests. In this world of just about “anything and everything” being captured on cell phone cameras, I wanted to shed light on an important forbidden faux pas for a guest.  It is a BIG no-no to go around someone’s house and photograph different aspects of their interiors. 

Interiors are private. Taking the liberty to snap a few photos while inside someone’s house for your own pleasure, is tantamount to photographing someone nude when no one is looking!  You may capture something pretty, but in a civilized society, it’s not yours to capture.

Consider that one’s interiors are exclusive and should remain privy to the owners.  A photograph becomes a permanent record, one that the owner of the house no longer has control of.  From hidden security cameras, art, and antiques, there are facets of a house that one may wish not to share, or may choose to present in a more appropriate or proper manner.  

Yes, there are indeed occasions when a guest can photograph inside a home.  I have happily witnessed guests capturing memorable videos of the bagpiper we have playing to commence a celebratory party, or apres fireworks on the terrace. Guests may wish to photograph one another too.  And yes, the background of the interiors are in the photograph. The difference is that you are not attempting to solely photograph interior rooms and the details (like a spy) without the consent of the owner. 

But, if you DO wish to photograph something in particular, present your wish with an open-ended question: “Someday, I would love to take a few photographs of this stunning room.”  Being tactful will enable the owner to either ignore or grant the request.

A few years ago, I posed this question to a friend in Palm Beach upon seeing her spectacular “seashell crown-molding” in a study.  Guess what?  She called me two weeks later and said she had just sold her house, and if I wanted to photograph it, I had a week to get down there.  I most certainly did… and that was the beginning of my Pearls of Palm Beach book

How divine and appropriate is this bespoke shell crown molding which is in a John Volk designed house in Palm Beach, which I featured as a chapter in my Palm Beach book?

Grandmillennial Tip:

If you take photographs in someone’s house, reassure them that you will not share any of them on social media, or at least not without their prior approval. 

How grateful I am that so many of my cherished friends have allowed me to photograph their stunning, family homes for inclusion into my two interior design books. Their trust alone is beyond pure gold, and means the world to me! 


XX
Holly

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My favorite rooms at Kips Bay Showhouse, Palm Beach!

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While I was standing in this charming, pink, green, and yellow sun-terrace, cleverly designed by Amanda Reynal Interiors, someone took my photo and said that I matched the room! Look how the macarons, the exquisitely embroidered napkins, the floral arrangement, and the coffee table were joyfully color-coordinated in a quintessential Palm Beach palette of pastels. It is, in Amanda’s words, “The perfect private oasis.” I fully agree!

Have you attended the fifth Kips Bay Showhouse in the historic district of West Palm Beach yet?  Having participated in three prestigious Showhouses as a designer, I can fully appreciate the time, effort, and financial investment each designer expends on their appointed room.  How delightful it was to tour and enjoy every detail… this time, as a visitor! 

A “Kips Bay Showhouse” has a well-earned reputation of featuring the pinnacle of architects and designers. The NYC and Palm Beach Showhouses have raised over $25 million for The Kips Bay Boys & Girls Clubs in both NYC and Palm Beach locations, which has benefited over 21,000 youths. The creativity and commitment of notable designers featured in this Showhouse richly contributes to this stellar charity, while also giving the visitors inspirational design ideas! 

The tailored Sunroom, created by Paloma Contreras Design, Houston, Texas, is a happy and timeless vision of Florida: soft greens and whites, touches of rattan, handsomely trimmed curtains and valances, and glazed linen on the upholstery. The white bespoke treillage on the walls and ceiling add brilliantly to the rich dimension of this room!

Attractive wall upholstery in beige and green striped linen encompasses the walls, ceiling, and also, the curtains, all serving to create a quiet respite. The headboard and box spring are upholstered in a complementary fabric. The handsome appliquéd bed linens enhance the tester bed. This well-appointed guest bedroom, designed by Sarah Bartholomew Design, LLC., is a joy to visit!

“In the Pink: A Poolside Paradise” was cleverly designed by Janie Molster Designs Richmond, Virginia. The Pool Deck, Pavilion, and Pergola have been graced with her darling pink accents. It is the most joyful space. With all that pink… you know I lingered here! Janie and I attended the same girl’s school in Richmond and I adore her work. It was truly a delight to see how she created the perfect place to host poolside parties all year long in Palm Beach.

In this historic house, I was thrilled to see my favorite kitchen/bath/bar designer, Jim Dove’s space, “The Monkey Bar!” The DeGournay vividly colored wallpaper, “Deco Monkeys,” enhances the backlight stone bar. It is where modern meets playful glamour. Jim was inspired by NYC’s renowned Monkey Bar which opened in the 1930s in the Elysee Hotel. His space is handsomely sophisticated, and features just the right touch of whimsy!

The public is invited to tour the Palm Beach Kips Bay Showhouse from March 5- April 3. Tickets are $40.00.  

I am sharing even more videos and photographs of the Showhouse spaces on my Instagram, and hope you will take a peek! 


XX
Holly

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How to repurpose your silver pieces!

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I added some ice to the bottom of my English,1880 silver syphon, and because of its slender size, I could place it on a side table in our Palm Beach living room. It is an elegant accessory that can be used to chill a bottle of wine or even a bottle of sparkling water, or… you name it!

My parents moved 33 times during my father’s career! Mummy taught me how to repurpose some of their silver pieces, which she did brilliantly, out of necessity. I hope to inspire you to not only use your silver, but to also consider using your pieces in a diverse, unique way.

Recently, I purchased an English silver “biscuit box,” c. 1975. It is the perfect size to store cookies for grandchildren or biscuits for a puppy. When I was preparing for an impromptu cocktail party at “Fox Worth,” our apartment in Palm Beach, I realized that I needed a more diminutive-sized ice bucket than what I had because our Louis XVI side table, where we serve champagne and drinks, has limited surface space. Suddenly, I spied the biscuit box in the kitchen and immediately repurposed it into an ice bucket. It could not have been any more perfect; even the hinged lid helps to keep the ice inside from melting! It was a seamless transition from cookies to ice cubes and has served me well for our Palm Beach parties. I did not have an ice scoop, so I opted to repurpose an antique silver tomato serving spoon, with a shell handle, to serve ice from the biscuit box. I hope to inspire you to think outside of the box!

The silver syphon, shown in the photograph above with a wine bottle, is used here as a flower vase. The English biscuit box is filled with ice, and the Sheffield basket holds See’s chocolates, but I also use it to serve my biscuits at dinner. Silver pieces from: Corbell Silver .

Here are 14 of my ideas for “repurposing silver accessories”:

  1. A silver champagne cooler can be transformed brilliantly into a graceful flower vase.

  2. A silver baby cup can serve as an hors d’oeuvres toothpick holder or a small flower vase.

  3. A small silver cream pitcher is perfect for bedside flowers, or to serve warm syrup for pancakes.

  4. A silver canaster can be used for any spice, powdered sugar, and more.

  5. A silver tray, when placed under a floral arrangement, can “frame and enhance” the flowers, and it will serve to catch any pollen or falling blossoms.

  6. Silver chargers are a splendid size to pass hors d’oeuvres.

  7. Silver napkin rings can be filled with greenery to garnish a serving platter of prepared food.

  8. A silver cigarette holder can be used to serve candies or toothpicks/skewers.

  9. A silver punchbowl can be used to serve biscuits for a large party.

  10. A silver mint julep cup can hold make-up brushes or q-tips.

  11. A silver coaster is a perfect size to place some chocolates by your guest’s bedside.

  12. A silver baby rattle works brilliantly as a carving knife rest.

  13. A silver basket can be used for biscuits, chocolates, cookies, bread, crackers, nuts, and petit fours.

  14. A silver picture frame can be transformed into a standing mirror by slipping in a piece of “mirrored glass” in the place of a photograph.

Do tell!  How do you repurpose some of your silver pieces?  I will add your ideas to my silver repertoire and share them with you, too!

Mummy’s silver umbrella was used back in the 60s as a chic cigarette holder for her bridge parties. I transformed it into a toothpick holder, to go alongside hors d'oeuvres… much more chic than smoking!

XX
Holly

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When I receive NYSD in my inbox, perusing through it is always such a treat. Finding out what is going on in splendid venues, seeing friends, colleagues and clientele, learning about what is happening in New York City and Palm Beach, complemented with delicious writing and party photographs, is a moment to indulge in, and savor!

The classic and very versatile designs created by Holly Shae Design have a unique elegance and will become a staple in your closet with an “elevated-with-ease” look. Made in one size, their multi-length lined dresses have a signature “extra-wide sash” to customize each piece to fit your body brilliantly! Their jewelry and handbags are darling too. Since their fabrics and products are delivered through global production networks, they strive for the most ethical-conscious means for sourcing.


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The protocol for a graduation invitation and an announcement!

The quintessential guide to classic interior design, elegant entertaining & a genteel lifestyle.
(formerly Mummy's Monday Manners)


Graduation time is drawing near! Some ideas for gifts that I have found to be adored by young lady graduates: college graduates appreciate an elegant black handbag for interviews, and graduates of any age will cherish a lovely piece of jewelry, an engraved frame to hold a sweet memory, or a porcelain Herend box to place by their bedside for earrings or even, as a pretty decorative piece on a coffee table!

It is always a delight to read your questions and responses to my “Secrets to Lovely Living!”  Just recently,  I was asked about the protocol for a “graduation announcement versus an invitation,” hence my topic du jour! 

A graduation invitation is different from a graduation announcement.  The former is requesting your attendance at the actual ceremony, and the latter is acknowledging your academic accomplishment…cheers to graduating! 

A Graduation Invitation: 

If you receive a graduation invitation, it is requesting your physical attendance at the graduation commencement. It is typically mailed six weeks prior to the graduation date, or a save-the-date card can be sent up to three months ahead. This advance notice is helpful for out-of-town guests to make their travel arrangements. 

Do not take offense if you did not receive an invitation. Due to the constraint of limited school seating, invitations are mainly intended for immediate family and close relatives.

Respond to the R.s.v.p. as soon as possible, because tickets are limited. If you cannot attend, the graduate can then invite another close family member.   

Graduation invitations are similar to wedding invitations.  If the school provides you with the invitation, along with two envelopes, write the address on the outer envelope, using as few abbreviations as possible, i.e., Street, Avenue, Connecticut.  The inner envelope only states the guest’s name: Mr. and Mrs. R. Stuart Holden, Jr. or, for a relative, simply, Uncle Herb. Use black ink, although blue ink is acceptable too. 

A Graduation Announcement:

Since an announcement is not an invitation to attend the commencement, the announcement is sent after the actual graduation ceremony has taken place!  They can be mailed the day after, or up to two weeks, after the ceremony.  A graduation announcement does not include an invitation to a party because the party will have already taken place after the ceremony. 

Graduation Party:

If you are hosting a graduation party, then you can invite whomever you wish.  The sky's the limit! Party invitations should be mailed separately, and not inserted into the graduation invitation. It is a thoughtful idea to give a “start and end time” so that the graduate and their friends can also plan to attend other parties. 

Graduation Gifts:

If you receive a graduation announcement, you are not obligated to send a gift.  Of course, the graduate would appreciate your kind acknowledgment with either a congratulatory note or… better yet, a gift!  

If you receive an invitation to the graduation ceremony, a gift is expected.  Either send a gift and request that it be delivered near or on the graduation date, or give your gift to the graduate on the day of the commencement. 

It is always nice to ask the parent’s advice on what to give. Consider ordering something that can be engraved with their name, or school, and a date, or give something they can use after graduation for their apartment/house. Lovely stationery that can be used for thank you notes, or an exceptional pen, is another idea!  Sending flowers to the graduate on the day of the graduation is also thoughtful. A check or gift certificate is appropriate too. 

Gentlemen graduates may enjoy having a handsome frame engraved with their initials or school, a pair of engraved cufflinks, a leather credit card holder, or a business cardholder.

Forbidden Faux Pas

No-no: To send an announcement to anyone who has never met the graduate.

What is done:  The announcement should be sent to people the graduate knows, not just the parent's friends or Christmas card list.  Rule of thumb: whomever receives an announcement should be able to recognize the graduate and vice versa!

No-no: To have a gift registry included on the invitation.

What is done: The guest will inquire if you have a registry or a particular store that you adore. 

No-no: For the graduate to only talk to their friends at their graduation party. 

What is done: The graduate should make an effort to talk to all of the guests attending their ceremony and party. 

No-no: To send an email thank you note for graduation gifts.  

What is done: A hand-written thank-you note is required for any graduation gift received, preferably within 48 hours, but up to two weeks, after receiving the gift.

And, don’t forget to pop a cork of champagne for the accomplished graduate!

XX
Holly

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When I receive NYSD in my inbox, perusing through it is always such a treat. Finding out what is going on in splendid venues, seeing friends, colleagues and clientele, learning about what is happening in New York City and Palm Beach, complemented with delicious writing and party photographs, is a moment to indulge in, and savor!

The classic and very versatile designs created by Holly Shae Design have a unique elegance and will become a staple in your closet with an “elevated-with-ease” look. Made in one size, their multi-length lined dresses have a signature “extra-wide sash” to customize each piece to fit your body brilliantly! Their jewelry and handbags are darling too. Since their fabrics and products are delivered through global production networks, they strive for the most ethical-conscious means for sourcing.


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A gift you give yourself… hiring help to serve at your party!

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On a warm summer's evening, dining on our veranda at Fox Hall c. 1803, is simply magical!

Stuart and I adore entertaining. Friends are a gift you give yourself! Our goal is to have a jovial time while catching up with our darling friends by sharing stories and laughing together over dinner. I truly savor the preparation, from arranging the flowers (either from our garden or store-bought), to deciding the menu, setting the table, and cooking. To me, while as time-consuming as it is to cook, it is my way of showing my love to our precious friends and family. I am most grateful to be able to do this. That being said, Stuart contributes by placing the appropriate glasses on the table and being in charge of the wine and libations for the event. He always excels at showing “his love” with this task…a “jolly time” is guaranteed!

True confession: serving and cleaning up is something that I do not enjoy! When we host an intimate party of six or more, Stuart and I have always agreed that it makes our evening more enjoyable to have help to serve and clean up. This is a gift to ourselves! We are able to relax after all of our preparations and enjoy the evening. Delightfully, we can “be in the moment” and give our full attention to our guests. We are most grateful to be able to have help. It was a decision we made the moment we could afford it, and to you, dear grandmillennials, consider doing this too for your parties.

For Alexandra’s 40th birthday dinner party ( wait, our daughter can’t be that old!), she invited her dear friends from her Miss Porter's School days. Sweet photographs of the girls back in school were arranged on the sideboard, and I placed a wine decanter, filled with flowers, at each place setting as a gift for them to take home. I still consider them as my “other” daughters!

A seasoned piece of advice, which I have learned through experience, (and recently, forgot to do!) is to take the time to discuss with the person/people serving you for the first time, what you expect and how you wish them to serve.  Showing them by example, before the party, is a prudent and thoughtful way to have an understanding between you and your server; you will both know what to expect! 

My “shortlist” to discuss with a new server is:

  • Plates and other serving dishes are served on the left side of the guests. In America, the rule of thumb is to "serve on the left."

  • Plates are cleared from the table on the right side of the guests. I just remember the two R's: “Remove on the Right!"

  • Glasses are refilled on the right because their placement on the table is on the right.

(On a side note, in England, in private houses, plates are served and cleared only on the left side of the guest.)

Forbidden Faux Pas

No-No: To stack plates when clearing the table.  Plates should never be stacked or scraped clean anywhere near the dining table.

What is done: Plates are cleared from the table, two at a time, three at most.  They are cleaned in the kitchen, and preferably not within earshot of the guests.  

No-No: To leave any remaining plates on the table when dessert is served.

What is done: When all of the courses have been served and the remaining plates, salt and pepper, serving pieces, chargers, and flatware (other than the dessert flatware) are all cleared from the table, then dessert (referred to as "pudding” in England) is served.  Glasses remain on the table until the dinner is over and guests move to another room.

Oh, the final part of the gift? Going happily to bed knowing the dishes are clean, put away, and the trash is out. Sweet dreams assured! 

XX
Holly

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The social Kiss-Kiss! Which cheek gets the first air kiss?

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Psyche Revived by Cupid’s Kiss, is the romantic marble sculpture by Italian artist, Antonio Canova, 1787.

With Valentine’s Day in the air, let’s talk about the “Kiss-Kiss!”

Sweet Lalique Lovebirds are kissing on Mottahedeh Pink Lace china… a darling Valentine decoration for your table!

Yes, kissing on the lips is for lovers!  But, the tradition of the “kiss on the cheeks” is a recognized form of endearment between friends, family, and occasionally, business colleagues.  Touching cheeks and kissing in the air is known as the “social kiss” or the “air kiss.”  It is one step above a handshake in terms of devotion, friendship, love, and gratitude.  It is a prevalent social practice for a greeting, and a farewell, in many countries such as the USA and Europe.  In France, this common practice is referred to as “Faire la bise.”

With the continued challenges of Covid, be aware and respectful of how others wish to greet you in reference to the social kiss.  Note their body language and also, if they keep their mask on.  Take your cue from the other person and be respectful of their space and comfort zone. 

The kiss sound comes from your lips in the air, and not a “mu-wah '' voice sound, right?   But, if you are practicing safe distancing, I think that the gesture of hands up while giving a “mock air kiss-kiss” from afar, along with the  “mu-wah mu-wah” voice sound, is a joyful and respectful substitute for a social kiss greeting! 

The general guidelines for a social kiss are:

  • A social kiss is usually from right cheek to right cheek. But sometimes, depending on the culture and tradition of a country or region, it is from the left cheek to the left cheek. If you’re in another country, take the cue from them… and, good luck with that!

  • Your lips never touch the other person’s cheek.

  • Your cheek does not need to touch the other person's cheek; it’s your choice.

  • Ladies, if you wear lipstick, just be careful not to leave it on the other person’s cheek!

  • A gentleman properly waits for a lady to extend her hand first for a handshake. For the social kiss, he should also wait for a lady to be the first to lean forward, which is the cue that it is appropriate for a social kiss.

  • In some countries, one, up to three social kisses are common. My advice is to go with the flow and just be prepared “to do the dance” for that surprise third, or even fourth kiss!

A kiss is the first language of love that we understand! Holding and kissing the newborn twins my daughter delivered in England is a cherished memory.

Happy Valentine’s Day and kiss-kiss to you all! 

XX
Holly

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The classic and very versatile designs created by Holly Shae Design have a unique elegance and will become a staple in your closet with an “elevated-with-ease” look.   Made in one size, their multi-length lined dresses have a signature “extra-wide sash” to customize each piece to fit your body brilliantly!  Their jewelry and handbags are darling too.  Since their fabrics and products are delivered through global production networks, they strive for the most ethical-conscious means for sourcing. 

I also happen to be hosting a lovely giveaway with Holly Shae, so please do pop over to my Instagram for details!



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When I receive NYSD in my inbox, perusing through it is always such a treat. Finding out what is going on in splendid venues, seeing friends, colleagues and clientele, learning about what is happening in New York City and Palm Beach, complemented with delicious writing and party photographs, is a moment to indulge in, and savor!


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Knock-out knobs and pulls: Jewelry for your cabinets!

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Brass fox knobs and snaffle-bit door pulls enhance the Butler’s Pantry cabinets at my home, Fox Hall. They reflect my beloved theme of foxes and horses!

Think twice when purchasing knobs and pulls for your cabinet doors and drawers!  While pretty earrings can complement an elegant outfit for a sought-after “tailored composition,” decorative knobs and pulls can be the “darling detail” for your cabinets, and serve to create a well-appointed decorative touch. Whether the interior space is grand or petite, formal or informal, what you choose to adorn your cabinets with is worthy of your time and attention. Cabinets can be prime real estate to feature a touch of your personality into a room. 

The knob design, and finish you choose, can either be a theme-inspired element, a whimsical element or simply a quiet enhancement to a cabinet, while intrinsically contributing to the overall design of a room.  I adore looking at one’s choice of hardware, as it can transform a space to become uniquely individual!  

Drawer knobs and pulls are available to purchase from a myriad of places.  While I have many “to the trade” options available as a designer, there are, now more than ever, many sources readily available and easily accessible via the internet.  Even Etsy offers some darling options!  Finding just the right style, size, design, and color of “jewelry for your cabinets” can be captivating, amusing, and joyful, once you commence the search with a theme in mind.  

There is a whimsical Chinoiserie theme at Petite Fox II, our newest abode in Palm Beach! The dining room features a bespoke pagoda. And, for the kitchen, I chose wallpaper with pink & blue Chinese dragons and foo dogs. As I searched for the cabinet hardware, I discovered brass “dragon” pull handles on Etsy, of all places. I was intrigued, so I ordered a sample. That was it! Soon, they clung to the upper cabinet doors in our kitchen. Because of their spine, pointy tail, and pokey-sharp tongue, these dragons tend to “bite” if you lean against or brush past them. So, I chose a different style pull, with a lower profile, to dress the lower cabinets.

Grandmillennial Tip:

The finish you choose for your cabinet jewelry should be all the same- either brass, nichol, chrome, etc.  This is applicable to the hinges too if they are visible. 

The “egg” shape pull is the most classic shape of all. I have brass egg shape knobs throughout my kitchen (on the doors and drawers) at Fox Hall, c.1803.

These handsome glass egg-shaped faucet handles at the WATERWORKS showroom in Bostoncaptured my attention for a guest bathroom for a client. I would recommend carrying out the same egg shape and finish for the cabinet hardware too. The glass adds a touch of glamour. Do you agree?

While drawer pulls are traditionally centered, a second pull (side by side)  may be used if the drawer is over 20” wide, depending on the size of the pull. Or, just use one pull, but longer in size than the ones on the smaller drawers. 

A knob can be placed on the leading edge anywhere from 1” from the far bottom corner of the cabinet door, up several inches from the corner, or even in the absolute center of the door. Experiment with various placements before actually drilling the hole to attach them! 

Consider using two different designs of knobs for cabinets in the same room. While each has a distinctive design and shape, they should strive to be complementary in theme and have the same finish.  

My daughter, Caroline, discovered four orange enamel knobs with brass fox heads at an Anthropologie store. Even though they were discontinued, she knew that somehow I would find a way to use just four of them! And I did… on the glass doors in another section of the Butler’s Pantry at Fox Hall.

XX
Holly

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Last week I featured the very talented Mara Sfara. She has been gracious enough to offer this lovely painting exclusively to my SLL subscribers and social media followers! The painting, Three Great White Egrets, is oil on linen and valued at $4,200. Click the button below to enter! We will be choosing our winner at random on Valentine's Day, 2/14/22. The winner will be announced shortly thereafter, once confirmed. Best of luck!



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Have you ever wanted a dress or blouse that is easy to wear and extremely flattering, while also being timelessly chic? Jude Connally Zimmerman, the brilliance behind the Jude Connally collection of dresses, empowers women to feel their best from the outside in. She has a talent for style, color, and pattern… and incorporating pink! Jude is exceptionally gracious and her following is too. How delightful to choose a dress, slip it on, and feel put together without any effort! She combines textile innovations in activewear with ready-to-wear design and style, so the fabric travels exceptionally well. I truly adore wearing her designs any time of day, and in any season!

Jude Maguire is passionate about relaxed elegance! She has created a collection of patterns and colors, which all tie in together, for both wallpaper and linens. Her company, Main and Market, offers locally sourced clay-coated wallpaper, sustainable hand-woven sisal grasscloth wall coverings, and bio-degradable paper weaves, along with textiles that are all Belgian linen and Irish linen, all of which are printed in New England.

When I receive NYSD in my inbox, perusing through it is always such a treat. Finding out what is going on in splendid venues, seeing friends, colleagues and clientele, learning about what is happening in New York City and Palm Beach, complemented with delicious writing and party photographs, is a moment to indulge in, and savor!


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What decorative trim is elegantly understated and timeless?

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What decorative trim is elegantly understated and timeless?

A simple, quietly understated 1” wide trim embellishes a dust ruffle, created with a Bob Collins classic chintz fabric, in Palm Beach.

What decorative trim is timeless, tailored, and exceptionally cost-effective?  It can be used to enhance curtains and valances, adorn upholstery, pillows, dust ruffles, and even grace your clothes, hair bands, hats, shoes, and ponytails?  Now, that’s a notable roster for ONE kind of trim, wouldn’t you agree?  Any ideas of which trim I am referring to?

It is a grosgrain ribbon!  (Pronounced: GROW-grain)

Grosgrain is a very versatile ribbon and has a distinctive ribbed appearance that goes across the ribbon, which enhances its durability.  Its textured parallel ridges have a matte finish.  Therefore it is not flashy or shiny, and is more durable than satin or silk ribbons. 

Grosgrain, as early as the 17th century, referred to a garment fabric that was black and durable.  In the 1920s “grosgrain ribbon” was introduced, and now, there are a multitude of colors and printed designs available.  I like to think of grosgrain ribbon as having a “distinguished appearance,’ which is one reason it continues to embellish evening wear too, like the bow on a gentleman’s formal black evening pumps.

And, how about these golden grosgrain earrings!!

Consider applying a 1” to 2” wide grosgrain ribbon along the leading edge and across the bottom hemline of your curtain panels. Choose a complementary color to the fabric design or room scheme… or simply choose a neutral color, like white.

These curtain pull panels have 1 ½” white grosgrain ribbon applied one inch off the leading edge of both panels.

I specify a grosgrain ribbon trim to be sewn about ½” to 1 ½” off the leading edges on a curtain panel. How you place it depends on the pattern of the fabric, the height of the room, the width of the curtains, and the formality of the design scheme. So, it is a matter of deciding what proportionately works well overall in reference to the placement, size, and color of the ribbon. Two or more smaller ribbons can be used too. Have fun, be clever and think outside of the box when designing with grosgrain ribbon!

XX
Holly

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I have used Samuel & Sons grosgrain ribbons for years for my clients. Grosgrain ribbon can also be easily obtained on the internet too, like this roll of 2” white ribbon.


My Palm Beach Secrets!


The next time you visit Palm Beach, a marvelous place to have lunch outside on the ocean’s edge is The Four Seasons Hotel, about six miles by car from Worth Avenue. The service and food is delightful. It is well worth the drive… and well-behaved dogs are allowed!

GIVEAWAY! 

Last week I featured the very talented Mara Sfara. She has been gracious enough to offer this lovely painting exclusively to my SLL subscribers and social media followers! The painting, Three Great White Egrets, is oil on linen and valued at $4,200. Click the button below to enter! We will be choosing our winner at random on Valentine's Day, 2/14/22. The winner will be announced shortly thereafter, once confirmed. Best of luck!

My “secret” color combination for kitchens!

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My “secret” color combination for kitchens!

A blue & white kitchen will stand the test of time! Photo Credit: Scheffer Interiors via Instagram.

What is my “secret” color combination for a charming, timeless, and tailored kitchen?  It’s a “blue & white” color scheme!  This traditional color combination has been around for centuries, so maybe it does not qualify as “my secret,” but more of my “tried and true'' color combination for a kitchen… and for other rooms too, for that matter!

Mummy convinced me to consider a blue & white scheme for the kitchen in my first “big-girl” house.  I realize now that I did not truly appreciate her sage guidance at age 21… but, once again, her advice was merited!  She drew from her well-earned experience: she encountered several rather unique interiors, whilst moving our family over 33 times internationally!  Fortunately, I listened to her and adopted her blue & white suggestion for almost all of our houses.  

The blue & white scheme also works well with yellows, greens, reds, and even pink accents.  Almost any other happy color will compliment a blue & white room.  

To me, the blue & white theme utilized in kitchens, and other interior spaces, adds an air of contentment and joy, similar to a bright blue sky adorned with enchanting, puffy white clouds… a joyful, welcomed sight!  Even the blue & white images of interiors that I share on my Instagram garner enthusiastic likes and views from my followers.

This is our little sitting nook in the blue & white kitchen at Fox Hall. I commissioned an artist to paint our son, Stuart III, and requested that the color of his sweaters be a soft blue, knowing that it would always work well with the blue & white colors in our kitchen!

There is a universal appeal and charm of a blue & white color palette.  Perhaps, one reason it remains an enduring color combination is because of its long history and staying power.  It originated on pottery in China in the Tang dynasty 618-906.  In the Yuan dynasty 1279-1368, the cobalt blue used on pottery and porcelains became even more vibrant.  Blue & white porcelains arrived in Europe in the 16th century.  In the 1850s, the British were simply charmed by the appeal of a blue & white scheme, which became quite fashionable.  (And, of course, it served to brighten up their dark Victorian interiors!)  Impressionist artists, such as Auguste Renoir, sprinkled blue & white porcelains into their works of art.  The universal appeal and charm of blue & white in rooms, or on porcelains, continues and is a traditional, not trendy, choice. 

From various hues of blue-painted kitchen cabinets to blue & white wallpaper, one just cannot go wrong with this choice! So, pass along this advice to a bride, a first-home owner, or someone designing a resort house. From my experience, it will serve them well.

Main and Market offers blue & white wall coverings with a fresh aesthetic to the designs.

XX
Holly

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GIVEAWAY! 

Last week I featured the very talented Mara Sfara. She has been gracious enough to offer this lovely painting exclusively to my SLL subscribers and social media followers! The painting, Three Great White Egrets, is oil on linen and valued at $4,200. Click the button below to enter! We will be choosing our winner at random on Valentine's Day, 2/14/22. The winner will be announced shortly thereafter, once confirmed. Best of luck!

A lovely lucite sculpture can hop into your heart!

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A lovely lucite sculpture can hop into your heart!

An adorable lucite bunny is tickled pink to be under the “Three Great White Egrets.” Both pieces are by artist Mara Sfara.

There is nothing like commencing a new year with a hop and some sparkle!  I was on the hunt for a joyful little piece of art: a sculpture for a client in Palm Beach to perch upon a tellie room coffee table… and it had to be pink! 

When I choose art, my mantra and prerequisite is that “the artwork has to speak to my heart.”  So, I keep that in mind for my darling clients too. 

Luck would have it that I ran into Mara Sfara, a dear friend, fellow Garden Club of Hartford member, and a stunningly talented artist.  She has been featured in many art publications and notable shows.  Mara is not only an exceptionally fine artist on canvas, she also sculpts brilliantly.  So, I inquired, and yes!  She had the perfect piece: a pink, lucite bunny, with a few sparkles.  My client sparkles and adores bunnies.  Mission accomplished! 

Art conveys an individual's personality and interests, and can also enhance the overall visual aesthetic experience of an interior design scheme.  Mara says, “Artwork is about falling in love!”  Agreed.  She loves her subjects in order to create art that touches one's heart.  Animals, endangered species and human relationships, make her art sing. 

Mara’s pink bunny sang to me- his little bent ear is so very precious. (Oh, dear. This is what happens to designers when they find the perfect piece for a client; they are tempted to buy one for themselves too!)

Lucite has higher light refraction than glass.  I am attracted to the luminosity of lucite, yet did not know much about lucite sculpting.  I inquired and thought you may wish to know more as well.

1.) Mara sends her sculptures to a foundry to make small limited editions of each piece.  The foundry uses a process that is like bronze casting.  

2.) The type of lucite that she uses is extremely difficult to work with, as it requires a perfect pour for even coloration, no bubbles, and a perfect placement.  Therefore, it requires a highly skilled foundry to create work at this level. 

3.) None of the pieces are the same even if you use the same color pour.  Each lucite sculpture is different in size and shape.  The buffing is also a long process.

Her website explains the entire lucite process and shows other pieces of her artwork.

I have always had a penchant for zebras! The fine detail work is exceptional. There is eye contact with the zebra which speaks volumes, a kind of emotional attachment. This painting was featured in Fine Arts Connoisseur Magazine, editor Peter Trippi, and Art and Museums Magazine. Perhaps, someday, I’ll commission a pink zebra for Palm Beach!

Thank you, Mara! 

“Art is more about what’s in your heart and mind than what’s on your canvas.”

~Mara Sfara

XX
Holly

P.S. Next week we will be featuring a generous giveaway (from Mara herself) with the prize retailing for $4,200!   You won't want to miss this! Make sure to follow along on Instagram where the giveaway will be announced. 

Simple cinnamon sugar in a silver caster!

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Simple cinnamon sugar in a silver caster!

Sugar and spice, and everything nice! Do you have sweet memories of sprinkling “cinnamon sugar” over your buttered toast as a child?

My husband and I were delighted to have all of our eight grandchildren visit us at Fox Hall over the holidays.  It’s “happy bedlam,” and I cherish every moment.

At breakfast, one granddaughter asked me what the silver “sprinkler thing” was, which she spied perched near the kitchen stove.  “For pepper?” This was the perfect moment to share what a silver “caster” was originally designed for: sugar!  One would “cast” sugar across their food with it. 

Casters have been utilized ever since the 17th century.  Sugar was once a prized commodity, like tea.  The silver caster contributed to the decorative panache of displaying sugar on the table.  The dome top is pierced, so the sugar can be delicately dispersed as it is cast, and often has a decorative finial on top. 

Our silver casters have been lovingly used by our children ever since they were young, to sprinkle cinnamon sugar on their buttered toast as a special treat. They have a few “dings and dents” earned over the years, aka “authentic patina,” which I adore!

My granddaughter’s question created the perfect opportunity to carry on the tradition and make the cinnamon sugar recipe together. 

The ratio of cinnamon to sugar is approximately one to four.  In essence, 1/4 cup cinnamon to 1 cup of sugar and then stirred together.  (I prefer a little less cinnamon!) 

Simple cinnamon sugar in a silver caster! 

 

Sugar and spice, and everything nice!  Do you have sweet memories of sprinkling “cinnamon sugar” over your buttered toast as a child?

My husband and I were delighted to have all of our eight grandchildren visit us at Fox Hall over the holidays.  It’s “happy bedlam,” and I cherish every moment.

At breakfast, one granddaughter asked me what the silver “sprinkler thing” was, which she spied perched near the kitchen stove.  “For pepper?” This was the perfect moment to share what a silver “caster” was originally designed for: sugar!  One would “cast” sugar across their food with it. 

Casters have been utilized ever since the 17th century.  Sugar was once a prized commodity, like tea.  The silver caster contributed to the decorative panache of displaying sugar on the table.  The dome top is pierced, so the sugar can be delicately dispersed as it is cast, and often has a decorative finial on top. 

Our silver casters have been lovingly used by our children ever since they were young, to sprinkle cinnamon sugar on their buttered toast as a special treat. They have a few “dings and dents” earned over the years, aka “authentic patina,” which I adore!

My granddaughter’s question created the perfect opportunity to carry on the tradition and make the cinnamon sugar recipe together. 

The ratio of cinnamon to sugar is approximately one to four.  In essence, 1/4 cup cinnamon to 1 cup of sugar and then stirred together.  (I prefer a little less cinnamon!) 

Is cinnamon sugar a healthy choice for breakfast?  No!  Is it yummy, easy, and a fun treat for breakfast?  Yes indeed, it is! 

We made it, filled a silver caster, and then sprinkled some on our warm waffles.  This simple tradition of cinnamon sugar served in a caster now continues on to another generation! 

Grandmillennial Tip:

A caster can be utilized for other spices too!  I have actually used one to season my cooking with coarse black pepper.  I don’t use salt in it though, as it can pit the silver over time.
 

XX
Holly

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The gift of time for 2022!

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The gift of time for 2022! 


Mummy's antique French clock graces the wall in my office and reminds me of her remarkable life, along with the endless love she gave me. The photograph is from my first book, The Pretty and Proper Living Room.

As we commence a new year, I thought it poignant to share a sweet little analogy about a “unique contest and prize.”  Perhaps, you may have already read it before on the internet, nevertheless, the “unique prize” is a clever reminder to all as we inaugurate 2022.  So, here it is!

Imagine that you won a VERY unique contest.  What is the prize? Each morning, you receive $86,400.00 in your bank account!  Here are the rules: 

1. Each morning, upon awakening, another $86,400 will be deposited for that day.

2. Everything that you didn't spend during each day will disappear. 

3. Transferring money into another account is not allowed. 

4. The bank can end the game at any time, and without warning!  The bank can say “game over,” and close your account forever. 

So, how will you spend your daily deposit of $86,400?  Perhaps you will buy anything that you want, not only for yourself, but also for all the people that you love and care for.  And, you will try your best to spend every penny because at the end of the day, any left over will be gone, and you confidently know it will be replenished once again each morning, right? 

Well, let’s transpose the money into time.  Each morning we awaken with 86,400 seconds to live each day. So, you have already won the prize; it’s TIME! 

  1. TIME is the gift of life. 

  2. Once you go to sleep at night, any remaining time will NOT be credited to you. 

  3. The time not used on any day will be forever lost because yesterday is forever gone.

  4. Each morning, the “time account” is refilled.  

  5. But, here is the kicker: the bank can dissolve your account at any time and WITHOUT warning. 

So, what will you do with your 86,400 seconds of time each day in 2022?  Time races by faster than one can ever imagine.  Be happy, love deeply, and gratefully enjoy every “prized second” of your unique life. I wish you a healthy 2022… may every second be cherished!

XX
Holly

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How to PROPERLY pop the cork on a bottle of bubbly!

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How to PROPERLY pop the cork on a bottle of bubbly!


Pink champagne is traditionally served at Fox Hall… for any occasion!

When champagne is served, instantly it is a celebration!  With the tradition of serving champagne on New Year’s Eve, I thought I would pose the question: do you know how to properly pop the cork on a bottle of bubbly?  

Even though I have observed my darling husband open countless bottles, I confess I have been doing it incorrectly myself.  I always thought that the loud “POP” sound, accompanied by an enthusiastic “darting cork,” was key… wrong! 

Champagne was created in France BY accident, and if you are not careful to remove the cork correctly, you can have AN accident!  The cork, if not removed properly, can release, like a dangerous projectile, a flying bullet.  The pressure behind a champagne cork is approximately 90 psi, equivalent to three times the pressure in a car tire. What is the secret and safe method of popping the cork? Twist the bottle, NOT the cork! 

Here is how to properly remove a cork from a bottle of champagne:

FIRST: Be sure the bottle is chilled, preferably to 45 degrees Fahrenheit.  If the bottle is NOT cold enough, the cork can release even more quickly because of the pressure inside the bottle. (A bottle of champagne at room temperature has more pressure, which creates a bigger pop and more effervescent spray, than a chilled bottle!)

SECOND: Dry the bottle and hold it at a 45-degree angle.

THIRD: Untwist the wire cage counterclockwise with approximately six twists, and lift the cage off the cork, while also keeping pressure on the cork. 

FOURTH: Twist the bottom of the bottle, not the cork!  Keep pressure on the cork with your hand, and pull the bottle down as you twist it.  By twisting the bottle, you can control the release of the cork.  Twist until the cork pops. 

FIFTH: The quieter the “pop” of the cork, the more professional you are at mastering the correct technique!

Be sure to point the bottle away from anyone or anything valuable… no secret there!  Draping a folded linen napkin over the cork while removing it is another precautionary measure. 

My mother-in-law lovingly says, “Tiny bubbles taste better!”  It is always lovely to have a few chilled bottles of champagne on hand to serve for any occasion, because there is always a reason, and a season, to celebrate with champagne, right? 

Grandmillennial Tip:

Using a mixture of 50 percent water and 50 percent ice is an expedient way to quickly chill a bottle of champagne. Use this 50/50 mixture in an ice bucket and fill it about a third of the way up.  It is an elegant way to chill and serve champagne. 

Cheers to YOU!  I am most grateful for your enthusiastic support, and also to my generous sponsors.  Thank you!  I wish you a MOST bubbly 2022. May it be filled with happy celebrations! 
 

XX
Holly

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Magical Reindeer Food: The Secret Recipe

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Magical Reindeer Food: The Secret Recipe

Such a simple recipe that guarantees an abundance of joy!

If you have children, grandchildren or friends with children, I imagine you are truly counting the days until Christmas, based on their anticipation!  Christmas Eve has always been filled with excitement, tradition, and sprinkled with the spirit of magic on this holy night. 

One clever tradition that I adopted two years ago is Magic Reindeer food.  It was shared with me by a dear subscriber, Mary E., who sent me enough petite packages of “oats and gold glitter” for our eight grandchildren… a charming tradition, forevermore!  

On Christmas Eve, during cocktail hour, we give each child their own bag.  They promptly untie the ribbon and run outside to sprinkle the sparkly oats on the lawn by the front steps of Fox Hall.  It is such a precious moment to witness!  The children are truly invested in this memorable custom and I want to share this secret recipe with you, too.  (Mary gave me the nod to do so!)

Sprinkling the magic food on the steps to the front door seems to be the magic area of choice for our grandchildren!

For each bag:

3-4 Tablespoons of raw oats 

1-2 Tablespoons of gold craft glitter

Place both ingredients in a little bag and tie it with a holiday ribbon.  Shake-shake! An option, if you prefer, is to use red or green edible sprinkles, though not quite as sparkly.

May your holidays, and the new year, sparkle with love. 

Merry Christmas to all! 

XX
Holly

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The Secret Christmas Caviar Ball Recipe!

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The Secret Christmas Caviar Ball Recipe!

Each Christmas eve, my Caviar Ball is served in an etched glass caviar server. The bottom portion is filled with ice, and the finished Caviar Ball is adorned with a few holly leaves, a Holly tradition at Fox Hall! The Mother-of-Pearl spoon has a clever silver sturgeon-designed handle.

Would you agree that “inherited recipes,”  the ones families cherish, are as good as gold?  For one reason, they are tried and true! But also, the recipes, that have a time-honored appearance during holidays, can evoke happy memories simply by the mere sight and taste of them.  

On Christmas Eve, Mummy would make her recipe for “ THE Caviar Ball” which she served during cocktail hour.  I started eating caviar at a young age because of this tradition.  I did not know what it was… but, I must have been inspired to eat it as I observed how everyone was raving about it!  Isn’t that the case with food?  If you don’t know what it is and try it, sometimes you develop an appreciation for the taste, untainted by any preconceived ideas of its origin!

About caviar:

In order to be “true caviar,” the roe must come from the wild sturgeon (Beluga, Ossetra, and Sevruga) in the Caspian Sea and the Black Sea.  Caviar has been considered a luxury and dates back to the 4th Century B.C. when Aristotle heralded it as a delicacy.  Even the British Royal family has had an affinity for caviar.  Edward II decreed the sturgeon a royal fish in 1324. Caviar must be farmed now, due to the protected status of the near-extinction levels of sturgeon. 

Ever since I was a young bride, Mummy’s Caviar Ball has remained a tradition for our family. Truth be known, my Caviar Ball is also served at other social events at Fox Hall too, not just Christmas.  During this magically festive season, I am delighted to share my “secret” recipe with you.

Mummy’s Christmas Caviar Ball

1 8oz cream cheese (Note: it cannot be the “less fat” variety)

2 shakes of a Worcestershire sauce bottle

1 (or 2) scallions, finely chopped, including the bulb at the bottom 

½ teaspoon cream or milk

And finally, one 2oz. jar of Caviar!

Mix the above together (except the caviar).  Place on a piece of plastic wrap and form a ball.  Chill the ball until firm.  You can make this one or two days in advance of serving so that the scallion flavor melds into the cream cheese.  

On Christmas Eve, (or whenever!) place the cream cheese ball on a dish, preferably over ice.  A caviar server is lovely to own for this purpose.  Smooth the caviar over the ball. Serve with a Mother-of-Pearl spoon. (Silver spoons can impart a metallic taste from the caviar.) 

You can garnish with a little parsley, but I recommend our tradition of a festive sprig of holly for embellishment, along with half of a maraschino cherry to mimic a red berry! (Note: do NOT use actual holly red berries, as they are poisonous!)

Serve with toasted white bread, or Carr's water crackers.  You want something plain to spread it on, so that the true essence of the Caviar Ball is the hallowed flavor to savor. 

Oh, la la, discovering yet another caviar source in Paris!

Grandmillennial Tip:

 Domestic caviars are much less expensive and are quite appealing too. 

Make the cheese ball portion a day early so that the scallions can meld into the flavor of the cream cheese.  Then assemble it with the caviar on top and garnish with a piece of holly when ready to serve. 

The Caviar Ball is much easier to prepare than serving caviar separately, which requires the accouterments which consist of minced onions, egg whites, egg yolks, creme fraiche, and blinis. 

Make your own toast points or rounds.  Use white bread, toasted, with the crusts cut off.  Either cut the slice into four small triangles or punch out rounds into half dollar size pieces, implementing a small cookie cutter. 

If you serve your Caviar Ball on a silver platter, which I did for many years until I was given my caviar server, be sure to remove the remaining ball from the silver if there is any leftover.  The salt in the caviar can pit the silver… advice from my experience as a young bride! 

Please share this recipe, even though it is still my secret!  I hope you enjoy it as much as I have through the years!   

In gratitude,

XX
Holly

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Petite Decorations

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Petite Decorations 



Joy to the world! My beloved, childhood angels! 


Now, more than ever, the joy of being together is sweeter than sugar… and sugar plums! While decorating for Christmas this year, I felt a renewed kindred spirit for the “little decorations,” which I hold dear, sparking even more holiday spirit!

At Fox Hall,  a miniature circle of German hand-carved wooden angels (top photo) have been dancing around a little Christmas tree for decades.  You can see how these angels have been well-loved, with authentic patina from my first three childhood years spent in Germany.  My parents allowed me to play with them, so they acquired my “love marks” each year.  By creating these types of tactile traditions for children and grandchildren, cherished holiday memories are kept alive in one’s heart forever!


My German son-in-law’s family thoughtfully gives us an angel each year to add to our flourishing angel orchestra. 


There is a place for glamorous, as well as, homemade decorations.  But also, consider how special it is to discover diminutive and beloved treasures on a side table, the corner of a piano, around a candlestick, next to a bedside, or under an existing sculpture.  Petite Christmas vignettes, with fairy-sized decorations, are not only charming to behold but can serve to conjure cherished childhood memories too.  Sometimes the littlest gestures can delight and stay in one's heart forever.  Consider this when you decorate this year!


Isn't this Italian Christmas tree above, standing only 11 ½” tall, elegantly appointed?! The stand can be twisted to commence its delicate Christmas music which plays as the tree spins ‘round. Mummy purchased this years ago after my father died. Each year, I cherish gently lifting it from a padded box. I then sit down to quietly admire it before winding it up to hear the sweet music. I cannot help but have “happy tears,” as I listen and remember my loving parents, along with a flood of sweet memories of Christmas. Decorations with sentimental value tend to be the best decorations. Do you agree?


Can you spy the little red elf who climbs onto the dining room candelabra each Christmas morning? He is German, made of felt, has a hand-painted face, and is over 60 years old. He is a very nimble little elf who continues to delight us all!


May you too create memories and beloved traditions for your family with petite adornments each Christmas. 

XX,
Holly

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