Bespoke stationery makes for a thoughtful gift, perfect for family, friends, or newlyweds. I take great joy in selecting from my collection of writing paper, which I've accumulated over the years.
With the holidays now behind us, it’s the perfect time to pick up your pen and acknowledge your gratitude to those who thoughtfully gave you a gift. While sending a quick “thank-you email” might seem like the easiest option, consider forgoing the “digital quick fix“ in favor of something much more personal: a handwritten thank-you note! In today’s fast-paced world, this timeless gesture is a rare and thoughtful treasure for the recipient.
There’s something undeniably special about receiving a handwritten note in your mailbox, surrounded by bills and junk mail, don’t you agree?! It appears like a GIFT!
The effort you put into writing and mailing the note reflects the appreciation you feel for the recipient’s kindness. It is a personal, tangible way of expressing gratitude. I’ve kept and cherish many notes I have received over the years.
Here are some traditional, tried and true guidelines for writing a thank-you note:
Ink & Writing Instrument:
Ideally, use a fountain pen with blue or black ink. I personally enjoy using pink ink for dear friends. It’s a bit less formal, but still elegant. If you don’t own a fountain pen, a rolling ball pen is a sophisticated alternative to a standard ballpoint.
From fine point to bold, I enjoy choosing from various nibs on my fountain pens for my notes.
Timing:
Aim to write and send your thank-you note within 48 hours of receiving a gift or hospitality. While this 48-hour rule tends to be more lenient nowadays, it’s important to send your note as soon as possible… just make the effort!
Personalization:
A meaningful thank-you note goes beyond just the words “thank you.” Be specific about why you’re grateful. Mention how you plan to use the gift, or explain what made their hospitality so memorable.
Here are a few old-school references to know:
A “Bread-and-Butter” Note:
A term often used to describe a thank-you note sent after a dinner party or for hospitality. It's a nod to the tradition of being thankful for the simple but important gestures of kindness.
Writing Paper:
In England, stationery, or notepaper, is referred to as writing paper—a charming, old-fashioned British term.
A line through your name:
Drawing a line through your name when a title is indicated (Mr., Mrs., Dr., Countess, etc.) is an old-school nod indicating that you are on more personal and less formal terms with the recipient.
Forbidden Faux Pas:
No-no: To buy writing paper or a card with the words "thank you" printed on the front. The message of appreciation should come from you, not the stationery/card company!
No-no: To write a note with the first sentence starting with the word "I.” This gives the impression that you are more important than the person you are writing to.
No-no: To write your note with "Thank you" as the first two words. Instead, make an effort to share your delight and explain what you are thanking the recipient for, and then express your thanks.
No-no: To think that an email thank-you note is a sufficient expression of gratitude after attending a dinner party. The time and effort a hostess (or host) puts into a party for your pleasure should inspire you to hand write a thank-you note and share your sincere recognition with them.
No-no: To think brides have up to one year to write a thank-you note (according to etiquette books). A thoughtful bride will send a thank-you note within three months of receiving a wedding gift.
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GrandMillennial Tips:
For Young Children:
For little ones who can’t yet write a thank-you note, a creative way to express gratitude is through their artwork. Parents can help by sending a piece of their child’s creation to the recipient. It’s a simple but meaningful gesture that conveys love and appreciation, and it's sure to warm the recipient’s heart!
A Personal Touch:
If the recipient lives nearby, consider hand-delivering your thank-you note. There's something uniquely endearing about seeing “By hand” written on the corner of an envelope and is such a thoughtful touch!
In 2025, the timeless charm of handwriting thank-you notes may seem old-fashioned. However, in an era of instant communication, a handwritten note stands out as a true gesture of thoughtfulness and appreciation. It is a timeless way to show someone you value them, and it will undoubtedly be treasured far longer than a digital message!
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Xx
Holly
