A gift that you give to yourself when you entertain at home!

On a warm summer's evening, dining on our veranda at Fox Hall (c.1803) is simply magical! 

Stuart and I adore entertaining, and our goal has always been to have a jolly time while catching up with our darling friends. We share stories and laugh the night away over dinner. “Friends are a gift you give yourself!” 

I truly savor the preparation before a dinner party, from arranging the flowers, deciding the menu and setting the table, to cooking the dinner. While as time-consuming as it is to cook, it is my way of showing my love to our precious friends and family; I am grateful to be able to do this. That being said, Stuart also contributes by placing the appropriate glasses on the table and being in charge of the wine and libations for the event. He excels at showing “his love” with this task!

True confession: serving and cleaning up is something that I do not enjoy… who does? So, when we host an intimate party of six or more, Stuart and I have agreed that our evening is more enjoyable when we have help to serve and clean up. This was a decision we made the moment we knew we could afford it. This is “the gift we give to ourselves” so that we can be in the moment, and give our full attention to our dinner guests. Then we can relax and enjoy the evening. 

For Alexandra’s 40th birthday dinner party, she invited her dear friends from her Miss Porter's School days. Sweet photographs taken from when the girls were students were arranged on the sideboard. I placed a wine decanter, filled with pink flowers at each place setting as a gift for them to take home. I still consider these girls as my “other” daughters! 

A seasoned piece of advice, which I have learned through experience, is this: if you are hiring a new server for the first time, take a moment to discuss what you expect of them and how you wish them to serve.  Showing an example before the party is a prudent exercise. Then, you both have an understanding and know exactly what is expected. 

Here is my  “short list” of what I discuss with a new server or staff after showing them around the kitchen.  

COCKTAIL HOUR:

Always offer a linen cocktail napkin when passing hors d’oeuvres in case someone has put their cocktail napkin down and needs another one.

Pass one-bite hors d’oeuvres to ladies first, then gentlemen. For any remaining, I instruct the server to leave the serving plate on the coffee table or a side table. This gives me the opportunity to pick it up at any time and pass the plate myself, allowing me to move around to chat with my guests. 

DINNER:

Discuss the time table for cocktail hour and when dinner will be served. 

Decide if the first course will already be placed on the table or served once the guests are seated. 

Indicate where the guests of honor are seated because they are served first. And remember that the ladies are served first, then the gentlemen.  

Indicate where a guest is seated that has an allergy or does not drink. 

Plates and other serving dishes are served on the left side of the guests. In America, the rule of thumb is to "serve on the left." 

Plates are cleared from the table on the right side of the guests. I just remember the two R's: “Remove on the Right!" 

Plates are never stacked! They are removed two at a time from the table (and quietly placed in the kitchen). The woman guest of honor first, then the other ladies, and then the hostess. The gentleman guest of honor’s plate is then removed, followed by the other gentlemen, with the host being last. 

Glasses are refilled on the right because their placement on the table is on the right.

(On a side note, in England, in private houses, plates are served and cleared only on the left side of the guest.)

DESSERT:

If a dessert fork and spoon are placed at the top of the place setting, it is proper to have the server slide down the spoon to the right and the fork to the left of the guest (to the same position where the other flatware was previously placed). Decide if you want the server to do this or if you will let your guests attend to this proper dessert nuance. 

Discuss if a port or a cordial is being served.

Discuss if coffee will be offered, and if yes, when and where it will be served… in the dining room or the living room?

Forbidden Faux Pas

No-No: To stack plates when clearing the table. Plates should never be stacked or scraped clean anywhere near the dining table.

What is done: Plates are cleared from the table, two at a time, three at most. They are cleaned in the kitchen and preferably not within earshot of the guests.  

No-No: To leave any remaining plates, serving dishes and salt and pepper on the table when dessert is served.

What is done: When all of the courses have been served, the remaining plates, salt and pepper, serving pieces, chargers, and flatware (other than the dessert flatware) are then cleared from the table before the dessert is served.  

The decanters/wine bottles and glasses can remain on the table until the dinner is over and guests move to another room.

Then, the gift to yourself is that you can go happily to bed knowing the dishes are clean, put away, and the trash is out. Sweet dreams are assured! 

Xx

Holly 

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Holly's "Secret" Lemon Chess Pie Recipe

For those occasions when impromptu guests arrive, or you spontaneously invite friends over for lunch or dinner and need a quick dessert, I have the perfect recipe! It is one that both men and women savor, and you will most likely have all the ingredients on hand. So, what is my tried-and-true “SECRET” pie recipe? A Lemon Chess Pie! You can whip it up easily, especially if you have a pre-made pie crust, along with two lemons. You will likely already have the other ingredients in your kitchen: butter, eggs, and sugar.

The Lemon Chess Pie has a long heritage in England. It is similar to the English curd pie, dating back to the 1600s. It was adopted here, in New England and Virginia.  A version of the recipe was even in Martha Washington’s cookbook.  As a young bride in Richmond, I was given the recipe by a bridesmaid who copied it from her old Virginia family’s recipe repertoire. I have made it ever since and added my “secret” touch: the grated lemon rind!  

Why is it called “chess?” One reference is that, before refrigerators, it was stored in a pie “chest”… which sounds like “chess.” Another theory is that long ago, when a lady was asked what kind of pie she made, she responded: “it’s jes’ pie,” with a southern accent, and “jes” sounds like chess.  Whatever the derivation, it is “jes’ yummy!”   

Holly’s “Secret” Lemon Chess Pie Recipe

Pre-heat the oven to 350 degrees

You will need:

- 1 pie shell, unbaked 

(NOTE: I use Pillsbury pie crusts. Two are rolled up in a red box and can be found in the refrigerated (not frozen) section of the grocery store.)

- 3 eggs

- 1 stick of butter (I use salted butter)

- 1 ½ cups sugar (use superfine sugar if you have it!) 

- 2 lemons (the juice and, my secret: the finely grated rind from both lemons)

Cream together the butter and sugar.

Add the eggs, one at a time, and mix well.

Add the lemon juice and grated rind to the above.

Pour into the unbaked pie shell.

Bake at 350 degrees for approximately 35 minutes. 

It will be lightly browned. You want it firm enough to barely wiggle in the center when shaken. Serve warm or cold! 

A few more secrets:

~I like to press fork tines along the edge of the store-bought pie crust, creating that “homemade” look.

~This pie may be made a few days ahead and stored in the refrigerator. 

~If you have time and the ingredients, add a dollop of whipped cream, mint leaves, and a few raspberries for color. 

~It is rich with flavor (because of the butter and the lemon rind), so you can make the slices even smaller if necessary to serve more people. 

I hope y’all enjoy serving this pie as much as I have through the years! Shhh, now remember it’s a secret recipe!

And, take a peek at my Instagram secret “lemon squeezer” HERE. It works like a charm! I adore using it every day for lemon in my tea and for lemon water… and especially for this pie recipe!

 XX

Holly

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Addendum to SLL “Graduation Gifts”:

Dear Holly, 

Due to the high cost of college these days, we’ve done something a bit different with our nephews/godchildren. When they are born, we buy them bonds and add to them every year. When they graduate high school, we give them half to help defer costs. When they graduate college, they get the other half. This helps them have a nest egg that they can either keep or spend to help get them started. Ironically, our nephews seem to prefer to keep the bonds as a start to their financial well being. Smart kids. Of course, I would want the Launer handbag.

Nikki

Graduation: The difference between an "Invitation" and an "Announcement"

Graduation time is drawing near! Here are a few gifts that I have found that  young lady graduates appreciate receiving:

For a college graduate, an elegant black handbag for upcoming job interviews. 

Both college and high school graduates will cherish a lovely piece of jewelry, an engraved picture frame to hold a sweet memory, or a porcelain Herend box to place by their bedside for earrings, or to use as a pretty decorative piece. 

It is always a delight to read your questions and  recently, I was asked about the difference between a graduation invitation versus a graduation announcement.

A graduation invitation is requesting your attendance at the actual ceremony, and a graduation announcement is acknowledging an academic accomplishment. 

A Graduation Invitation: 

A graduation invitation is requesting your physical attendance at the graduation commencement. It is typically mailed six weeks prior to the graduation date, and a save-the-date card can be sent up to three months ahead. This advance notice is helpful for out-of-town guests to make their travel arrangements. 

Do not take offense if you did not receive an invitation! Due to the constraint of limited school seating, invitations are mainly intended for immediate family and close relatives.

Respond to a graduation invitation as soon as possible because tickets are limited, and if you cannot attend, the graduate can then invite another close family member.   

A graduation invitation is similar in format to a wedding invitation. If the school provides the graduate with an invitation and two envelopes, write the name and address on the outer envelope, and try not to use any abbreviations. Instead, spell out Street, Avenue, and the state- Connecticut.  Slip the invitation into the inner envelope and only write the guest’s name on the front. For example: Mr. and Mrs. R. Stuart Holden, Jr. or, for a relative, simply, Uncle Herb. Use black ink… or blue ink is acceptable too. 

A Graduation Announcement:

Since an announcement is not an invitation to attend the commencement, the announcement is sent after the actual graduation ceremony has taken place! Announcements can be mailed the day after, or up to two weeks after the ceremony.  A graduation announcement does not include an invitation to a party because the party will have already taken place after the ceremony. 

Graduation Party:

If you are hosting a graduation party, then you may invite whomever you wish! Party invitations should be mailed separately, and not inserted into the graduation invitation. It is a thoughtful idea to give a “start and end time” so that the graduate and their friends can also plan to attend other parties. 

Graduation Gifts:

If you receive a graduation announcement, you are not obligated to send a gift. Of course, the graduate would appreciate your kind acknowledgment with either a congratulatory note or better yet, a gift!  

If you receive an invitation to the graduation ceremony, a gift is expected. Either send a gift and request that it be delivered near or on the graduation date, or give your gift to the graduate on the day of the commencement. 

It can be helpful to ask the parents of the graduate advice on what to give or what they need. I like to order a gift that can be engraved with either their name, their school, and/or a date. 

Lovely writing paper or note cards with the graduate’s name is thoughtful and can be used for thank you notes. A Mont Blanc or Cross fountain pen or a rollerball pen with black ink is another idea. Sending flowers to the graduate on the day of the graduation is also thoughtful. A check or gift certificate is appropriate too.  

For gentlemen graduates, a handsome picture frame engraved with their initials or school, a pair of engraved cufflinks, or a leather credit card holder or a business card holder are all worthy gift contenders! A tie with the school colors or emblem is nice, too. 

Forbidden Faux Pas:

No-no: To send an announcement to anyone who has never met the graduate.

What is done:  The announcement should be sent to people the graduate actually knows, not just their parents friends, or their Christmas card list.  Rule of thumb: whomever receives an announcement should be able to recognize the graduate and vice versa!

No-no: To have a gift registry included on the invitation.

What is done: The guest will inquire to the graduate or their parents if they have a registry or a particular store they adore. 

No-no: For the graduate to only talk to their friends at their graduation party. 

What is done: The graduate should make an effort to talk to all of the guests attending their ceremony and party. 

No-no: To send an “email” thank you note for graduation gifts.  

What is done: A hand-written thank-you note is required for any graduation gift received, preferably within 48 hours, but up to two weeks, after receiving the gift.

 XX

Holly

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Lipstick Lessons for Ladies!

Picture this: You’re out to dinner, enjoying a divine meal with others, and suddenly, you realize your lipstick has disappeared faster than you expected. Fear not! Here’s how to properly reapply lipstick color to your lips, without becoming a circus act- especially when surrounded by fellow diners. Discretion rules! A lady should try not to draw attention to herself while performing this delicate task.

The old-school, Southern way I was privy to as a young adult is still applicable: lipstick is applied to the bottom lip only, quickly and discreetly, when in the company of others. Then, the two lips are rubbed together to get the lipstick color on the top lip. One and done!

Here’s how to master the art of discreet lipstick application:

1. Location, Location, Location! Place your lipstick in your evening bag or pocketbook so that it can be easily accessible. Ensure it is at the top. This way, you can simply reach in and grab it. Like braille, you’ll be able to remove it without looking into your bag!

2. The Sneaky Swipe! While everyone else is deep in conversation, use this moment to twirl up the lipstick without anyone seeing you; this is a covert operation- do it under the table! Apply the lipstick to your bottom lip swiftly and rub your lips together. Voilà! As a lipstick ninja, no one will even notice because you will execute this with quiet grace. 

Of course, the gold standard is to excuse yourself to the powder room for a proper application. But if you wish to stay at the table, the above method is appropriate. If you use a wand-type lipstick or require a mirror, it is best to go to the ladies' powder room to avoid calling attention to yourself.

Forbidden Faux Pas:

No-no: Leaving a ring of lipstick marks around the rim of a glass or tea/coffee cup.

What is done: Keep your lipstick mark in the same position to avoid creating a ring of shame around the rim.

No-no: Applying ANY kind of make-up at the dinner table or in the company of others. 

What is done: Politely excuse yourself to the powder room for a touch-up.

No-no: Leaving lipstick marks on a linen napkin at someone’s home. 

What to do: Blot your lips with a tissue in the powder room before dinner so that you do not make your host cringe when they see lipstick marks on their linens after you have departed. 

No-no: Touching your hair at the dinner table. 

What to do: Excuse yourself and go to the powder room for a quick comb or hair rearrangement. Sometimes, it’s just a nervous habit- so learn to refrain.

Left to right :

Clinique - Confetti Pop 38

Yves St Laurent- Rouge Pur 49 (can’t find it anymore!)

MAC- Candy Yum Yum 601 matt

Take a peek HERE at my lipstick Instagram video. Trust me, if you like vibrant pink, your lips will thank you!

 XX

Holly

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Grosgrain Ribbon: A Timeless Trim!

A simple and quietly understated 1” wide Grosgrain ribbon embellishes a dust ruffle in Palm Beach. 

What decorative trim is timeless, tailored, and not expensive? Grosgrain ribbon! It can enhance curtains, valances, upholstery, pillows, and dust ruffles. It can also adorn clothes, hair bows, hats, shoes, and ponytails.  Now, that’s a notable roster for a simple ribbon trim, wouldn’t you agree? 

Grosgrain (pronounced GROW-grain) is a versatile ribbon with a distinctive ribbed appearance that runs across it and enhances its durability. Because its textured parallel ridges have a matte finish, Grosgrain is not flashy or shiny and is more durable than satin or silk ribbons. 

Grosgrain, in the 17th century, referred to a black and durable garment fabric. In the 1920s, Grosgrain “ribbon” was introduced, and now, many colors and printed designs are available. Grosgrain ribbon has a “distinguished appearance,” which is why it continues to embellish evening wear, such as the bow on a gentleman’s formal black evening pumps.

Consider applying a 1” to 2” wide Grosgrain ribbon along the leading edge and across the bottom hemline of your curtain panels.  Choose a complementary color to the fabric design or room scheme, or choose a neutral color, like white.   

These curtain pull panels have a 1 ½” white Grosgrain ribbon applied one inch off of the leading edge of both panels.  

I specify a Grosgrain ribbon trim to be sewn about ½” to 1 ½” off the leading edges of a curtain panel. How you place it depends on the fabric's pattern, the room's height, the curtains' width, and the design scheme's formality. Two or more ribbons can be sewn as a trim on curtains, either next to one another in the same color or alternating colors, adding even more interest. Be clever and think outside of the box when designing with Grosgrain ribbon!  

I have used Samuel & Sons' Grosgrain ribbon for years for my clients' projects. Grosgrain ribbon, like the 2” width roll displayed here, can also be easily obtained online. 

I hope you will be inspired to use Grosgrain ribbon as a trim embellishment on your next design project!

Xx

Holly

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My Secret Kitchen Color Scheme!

This little nook adjoining the kitchen at Fox Hall is always filled and overflowing with family during the holidays!  I commissioned the artist to paint our son, Stuart III, with his dog Higgins. I asked the artist to make his sweater a soft blue, knowing it would always work well with our kitchen's blue-and-white color scheme.

What is my “secret” color combination for a charming, timeless, and tailored kitchen?  It’s a “blue-and-white” color scheme!  Why? It is TIMELESS!  This traditional color combination has been around for centuries, so maybe it does not qualify as “my secret,” but more of my “tried and true'' color combination for a kitchen… and other rooms, too, for that matter!

Mummy convinced me to consider a blue-and-white color scheme for my first “big-girl” house, in the kitchen.  This was sage advice for me as a young bride of 21.  She drew from her well-earned experience and encountered several rawwther unique interiors whilst moving our family over 33 times internationally. 

A blue-and-white scheme also works well with yellows, greens, reds, and even pink accents.  Our kitchen in Palm Beach, Fox Worth, has blue foo dogs and dragons as a design on the pink background wallpaper. Do you spy a pink refrigerator?! Couldn’t resist. 

 To me, the blue-and-white theme utilized in kitchens adds an air of contentment and joy, similar to a bright blue sky adorned with enchanting, puffy white clouds… a joyful, welcomed sight! Even the blue-and-white images of kitchens I share on my Instagram garner more views than any other color scheme. 

A blue-and-white kitchen will stand the test of time! 

Photo Credit: Scheffer Interiors via Instagram 

There is a universal appeal and charm of a blue-and-white color palette. It remains an enduring color combination because of its long history and staying power.  It originated on pottery in China in the Tang dynasty 618-906.  In the Yuan dynasty of 1279-1368, the cobalt blue used on pottery and porcelains became even more vibrant.  Blue-and-white porcelains arrived in Europe in the 16th century.  In the 1850s, the British were simply charmed by the appeal of a blue-and-white scheme, which became quite fashionable. (And, of course, it brightened their dark Victorian interiors!)  Impressionist artists such as Auguste Renoir sprinkled blue-and-white porcelains into their works of art.  The universal appeal and charm of blue-and-white in rooms or on porcelains continues. It is a traditional, not trendy, choice.

Please pass this advice along to a young bride, a first-home owner, or someone designing a resort house.  From my experience, it will always serve them well!

Xx

Holly

Why host back-to-back dinner parties?

We recently hosted a joyful Saturday evening dinner party in Palm Beach, bringing together a table of ten CEO.org members for a memorable gathering. We had a ball! View my latest IG reel about our party here! 

Why host back-to-back dinner parties? Sometimes consecutive parties are worthy of your efforts for a few reasons. 

On another evening, we hosted a more intimate dinner for six guests. 

Stuart and I occasionally host two dinners back to back because we either can’t fit two parties into our travel plans, to accommodate the demands of holiday schedules, or to adjust to our guests’ availability. 

While it might initially sound daunting, there are several unique benefits to holding parties in succession, if ever you need to: 

1. The silver is polished

2. The flowers are arranged

3. Your house is tidied up

4. You can cook or cater enough for two nights, so whatever you are serving will all be made in advance

5. The wine is purchased, the bar is stocked

6. You can invite twice as many guests as you can sit at your table

Arranging flowers a few days before any party allows the blossoms to open up and look their best.

 Serving a lobster bisque or crab chowder tends to be a welcomed first course. 

One benefit of two parties in a row is that after the first party, all you need to do is set the table again! And yes, it helps to have a server or staff to clean the glasses, dishes and launder and press the linens, but after the second party, you can then sit back (or collapse!) and celebrate your accomplishment!

Friends are a gift you give yourself. If your situation requires you to host two consecutive parties, it’s not so bad… you’ll double the gift of being with friends!

Xx 

Holly

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Hidden Beauty: Transform space under furniture for timeless elegance!

Ahh, Symmetry! Not only are decorative porcelains presented on this lovely English hall console table, but underneath, the pair of blue vases and a handsome antique Georgian cellarette (wine holder) enhance the entire composition. 

Photo Source: whimsicalhomeandgarden.com via Pinterest

We often overlook the hidden potential lying beneath our furniture! With a touch of creativity, these overlooked areas can be transformed into elegant spaces that enhance the overall aesthetic of any interior.

Learning from ‘the best of the best’ has always inspired me. My television series aimed to show masterpiece and privately owned houses. Their interiors feature time-honored decorative techniques. Touring exceptional houses can enhance your ability to decipher the difference between an innocuous-designed, trendy-trite interior from a timelessly elegant interior that is charming, inviting, and memorable.  

Always strive to buy in pairs for balance and symmetry; this vignette is a prime example!  The pair of Chinese blue and white garden stools underneath the attractive English table can also be utilized for extra seating.  

Photo source: Lusterineterors.blogspot.com.au via Pinterest

Vignette designed by Rosa Bernal

I discerned a clever decorative technique while filming an episode with Lady Henrietta Spencer-Churchill inside the Private Apartments at Blenheim Palace in Oxfordshire, England, and it left an indelible impression on me: utilize the unused space under a piece of furniture!  

In Blenheim Palace, at the end of a long hallway on the piano nobile (Italian for “noble floor”), a graceful console table features a collection of blue and white porcelain on top and underneath it. The three blue and white vases gracing the floor, enhance the vignette elegantly. 

This is a prime example of how porcelain can enhance art. The soft blue hues in Consuelo Vanderbilt's dress complement the blue and white porcelain collection, which cannot be seen here due to the cameramen and equipment while we were filming…. a good reason to visit Blenheim Palace to discover more examples like this!

So, look around your house for unused real estate under a table, console, sideboard, or highboy, and be inspired! Here are a few decorative suggestions to consider using:  

~ bust, statue, or sculpture

~ Chinese porcelain footbath

~ cachepot filled with plants or flowers

~ stack of large coffee-table books

~ ottoman or a pair of benches; both can be used for extra seating

~ cellarette (wine holder)

~ collection of vases

~ Chinese garden stools

Just outside our Hunt Room at Fox Hall, a bronze sculpture jumped underneath the antique American card table!  

Grandmillennial Tip:

If you have small children or a rambunctious dog, heavy sculptures, benches, and books work well as decorative elements on the floor instead of porcelain pieces, which can easily be broken! 

Xx

Holly

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A no-no for gentlemen!

This is a no-no, gentlemen!

Gentlemen, take note! 

I was unaware of the term “HIP” (Hands in Pockets) until William Mikus, a fellow Board member and the former Chair of the Salvation Army of Palm Beach County, introduced me to this concept. We were seated together at the Salvation Army holiday luncheon. The HIP topic sparked interest within our entire table. I invited him to share his thoughts as a guest contributor… so I will pass along his insightful and witty perspective!

The HIP Phenomenon: A Trend Among Men

“Recently, I noticed men walking into private clubs and fine dining restaurants with their hands in their pockets (HIP). At first, I didn’t pay much attention. But soon, I realized this phenomenon was everywhere, much like the “Red Car Theory,” which explains how something seems to appear everywhere, once you start noticing it!

The Many Types of HIP Offenders

There are many types of Hands-In-Pockets offenders. There’s the younger man, often handsome but unsure of himself. Then there are the lazy, slouchy types, the timid, the socially anxious and awkward, and those lacking self-awareness. These men have not been properly coached on how to present themselves.

HIP causes shoulders to sag and heads to droop—a posture that exudes servility, no matter how attractive or intelligent the individual is.

The solution, gentlemen?

Keep your hands visible! (Perhaps, have a tailor sew your pockets shut!) My critique of HIP isn’t arbitrary; it’s rooted in thousands of years of evolutionary behavior. Historically, keeping one’s hands visible and at the ready was essential for self-defense, and perhaps, for protecting a fair maiden from sudden danger. Whether faced with a drunken lout or a wild dog, readiness is paramount.

Now, step into a room with your jacket buttoned (always wear a jacket), shoulders back, and head held high. Pause briefly to scan your surroundings, allowing everyone to admire your commanding and confident presence. Then, walk with the dignity of a leader… think Caesar returning triumphantly from Gaul. Just saying!"

William J. Mikus, Palm Beach- Managing Director of Dakota Wealth Management.  

In conclusion, it is not just about looking good… it is about embodying confidence and self-assurance. Thank you, Bill, for sharing your HIP observation. 

So, gentlemen, hands OUT of your pockets! 

Xx

Holly

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Proper protocol for what to do with your cocktail glass before dinner!

After a champagne celebration at Fox Hall, we adjourned to the dining room, while our guests left their glasses behind in the living room.

A friend’s daughter recently asked me what she should do with her glass after cocktail hour when attending a private dinner party. Here are some tips on the gracious way to handle it.

At a Private Home Dinner Party:

Unless the host specifically invites you to bring your drink to the dinner table, always leave it in the room where the cocktail hour was held. Place your glass on a cocktail napkin on a table or, if there is a butler or wait staff with a tray, either in the room or stationed at the entrance to the dining room, gently place your glass on their tray. 

At a Private Club or Restaurant:

If you're enjoying a cocktail at the bar or in a reception area, a waiter or maitre d’ should offer to escort you to your table and bring your drink to you. Or, if you prefer, you may leave your drink behind. It’s best to follow your host’s lead in this case.

At a Large Reception:

Observe the host and follow their example. Often, there will be a table where you can place your drink as you leave the cocktail reception, or you can place it on a server’s tray. If it’s a business gathering, again, it’s best to take your cues from the host.

Forbidden Faux Pas:

No-no: To ask for a different wine than the one being served at a private dinner party, or anywhere you are a guest. If white wine is being served and you prefer red, simply abstain from drinking the white. If the host notices you’re not drinking and specifically asks if you’d prefer something different, then it’s acceptable to mention your preference.

You are invited to peek at my Instagram video here. Cheers to you for being a gracious guest! 

Xx 

Holly

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Silver Cloth

“Everything tastes better when served on silver!” That is the advice Mummy gave me as a young bride. I have always had a penchant for entertaining with silver… I imagine my grandmother and parents passed this gene down to me. 

Keeping silver polished? It is a labor of love! It brings to mind the old saying, "Tarnish?! What in tarnation?!“

BUT, I have a secret technique to share with you. It will help to keep the tarnish at bay! I highly recommend purchasing tarnish-preventative flannel cloth by the yard.  It helps to keep tarnish away while storing silver. Buy enough fabric to cover the tops and undersides of your pieces. I tuck my silver serving pieces into the safety of their little non-tarnish beds. I line the inside of a few drawers in the butler’s pantry with enough extra fabric to pull over the top of them and tuck them in! Here is an Amazon LINK. 

Do not be tempted to wash this tarnish-preventative fabric, or you’ll wash away the tarnish-preventing qualities! 

You can also cut pieces big enough to cover pieces you leave out when you travel or are away for extended periods. For example, a candelabra, large tureens, or even a medley of silver picture frames. Buy enough yardage to cut and drape over your pieces. Or buy premade bags.  

Silver pieces can also be wrapped in acid-free tissue paper and placed in a ziploc bag.  Another secret is adding a piece of chalk (like school blackboard chalk!) to the bag. The chalk will help keep the tarnish and humidity down. 

Tarnish-free strips are available online and can be added to flatware and jewelry boxes.  

The Royal Butler, Grant Harrold, and I had an interview together HERE in England. He suggests polishing your silver, tightly wrapping it in plastic wrap, and storing it in a cool place.  As long as it is tightly wrapped, tarnish will not occur, and it will be as bright as the day you wrapped it… easy peasy!  Thank you, Grant! 

Serve something on silver tonight… and see if it doesn’t taste better!  

Xx 

Holly

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A Coaster Conundrum: When should you use a coaster for a drink?

Coasters come in all shapes, sizes, and designs. When should you offer a coaster to your guests?

A young subscriber asked me, “As a hostess, when do I need to offer a coaster, and when do I not need to?!”

Oh, this is fun because decorative coasters are a popular gift in the world of pretty accessories… but gift shops will probably not like my answer!

Any glass WITH a stem, such as a wine, champagne, or port glass, do NOT need a coaster! 

A glass WITHOUT a stem, such as a highball, beer glass, or a tall ice tea glass, does require a coaster. Why? Cold drinks, especially with ice cubes, can create condensation and drip onto the surface where they are resting, leaving a watermark… especially on wood or leather-topped tables! 

One of the engraved silver coasters I inherited from Mummy continues to be used under the iced stemless glass for drinks in the living room, and for iced water on the dining room table. 

Coasters are thought to protect your table from scratches, yet the base of a stemmed glass will not scratch your table (and it is doubtful that a cocktail glass would either).  So, as a hostess, relax; scratches will not happen from a stemmed glass!

My rule of thumb? A coaster should be offered only to guests with STEMLESS glasses!  

When a cocktail napkin is offered, and you wish to set your drink down, it can be placed under a stemmed glass as a matched set until you pick it up again. (The cocktail napkin would be placed beside the coaster for a stemless glass.) 

Silver wine coasters are a charming way to dress your dining table appropriately to hold a bottle of wine or decanter. The bottom of most wine coasters continue to have a soft felt bottom… in case you wish to “coast” your wine down the table! 

The history of the “coaster” is intriguing! The term “coaster” was coined with reference to ships, referred to as “coasters,” going coast to coast in the 1700s. In well-to-do European houses, a custom started in the mid-1700s when a “coaster” was used to slide or “coast” a bottle of wine or a decanter across the dining room table on a tray (made of silver or wood) to late-night guests to serve themselves libations after the staff had retired for the evening. The tray had a soft fabric applied to the bottom to slide or “coast” across the wood table surface  (without a tablecloth) easily.  

And on a personal note, my heart goes out to all those in LA who have lost their homes in the devastating and catastrophic fires. I’m so terribly sorry and have you in my heartfelt prayers and send my love. 

Xx Holly

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The Timeless Charm of Handwritten Thank-You Notes: Gratitude in Words

Bespoke stationery makes for a thoughtful gift, perfect for family, friends, or newlyweds. I take great joy in selecting from my collection of writing paper, which I've accumulated over the years.

With the holidays now behind us, it’s the perfect time to pick up your pen and acknowledge your gratitude to those who thoughtfully gave you a gift. While sending a quick “thank-you email” might seem like the easiest option, consider forgoing the “digital quick fix“ in favor of something much more personal: a handwritten thank-you note! In today’s fast-paced world, this timeless gesture is a rare and thoughtful treasure for the recipient. 

There’s something undeniably special about receiving a handwritten note in your mailbox, surrounded by bills and junk mail, don’t you agree?! It appears like a GIFT!

The effort you put into writing and mailing the note reflects the appreciation you feel for the recipient’s kindness. It is a personal, tangible way of expressing gratitude. I’ve kept and cherish many notes I have received over the years.

Here are some traditional, tried and true guidelines for writing a thank-you note: 

Ink & Writing Instrument:

Ideally, use a fountain pen with blue or black ink. I personally enjoy using pink ink for dear friends. It’s a bit less formal, but still elegant. If you don’t own a fountain pen, a rolling ball pen is a sophisticated alternative to a standard ballpoint.

From fine point to bold, I enjoy choosing from various nibs on my fountain pens for my notes.

Timing:

Aim to write and send your thank-you note within 48 hours of receiving a gift or hospitality. While this 48-hour rule tends to be more lenient nowadays, it’s important to send your note as soon as possible… just make the effort!

Personalization:

A meaningful thank-you note goes beyond just the words “thank you.” Be specific about why you’re grateful. Mention how you plan to use the gift, or explain what made their hospitality so memorable. 

Here are a few old-school references to know:

A “Bread-and-Butter” Note:

A term often used to describe a thank-you note sent after a dinner party or for hospitality. It's a nod to the tradition of being thankful for the simple but important gestures of kindness.

Writing Paper:

In England, stationery, or notepaper, is referred to as writing paper—a charming, old-fashioned British term.

A line through your name:

Drawing a line through your name when a title is indicated (Mr., Mrs., Dr., Countess, etc.) is an old-school nod indicating that you are on more personal and less formal terms with the recipient. 

Forbidden Faux Pas: 

No-no: To buy writing paper or a card with the words "thank you" printed on the front. The message of appreciation should come from you, not the stationery/card company! 

No-no: To write a note with the first sentence starting with the word "I.” This gives the impression that you are more important than the person you are writing to.

No-no: To write your note with "Thank you" as the first two words. Instead, make an effort to share your delight and explain what you are thanking the recipient for, and then express your thanks.

No-no: To think that an email thank-you note is a sufficient expression of gratitude after attending a dinner party. The time and effort a hostess (or host) puts into a party for your pleasure should inspire you to hand write a thank-you note and share your sincere recognition with them. 

No-no: ​To think brides have up to one year to write a thank-you note (according to etiquette books). A thoughtful bride will send a thank-you note within three months of receiving a wedding gift.

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GrandMillennial Tips:

For Young Children:

For little ones who can’t yet write a thank-you note, a creative way to express gratitude is through their artwork. Parents can help by sending a piece of their child’s creation to the recipient. It’s a simple but meaningful gesture that conveys love and appreciation, and it's sure to warm the recipient’s heart! 

A Personal Touch:

If the recipient lives nearby, consider hand-delivering your thank-you note. There's something uniquely endearing about seeing “By hand” written on the corner of an envelope and is such a thoughtful touch!

In 2025, the timeless charm of handwriting thank-you notes may seem old-fashioned. However, in an era of instant communication, a handwritten note stands out as a true gesture of thoughtfulness and appreciation. It is a timeless way to show someone you value them, and it will undoubtedly be treasured far longer than a digital message!

Happy New Year Wishes! 

To my incredibly talented and clever team—Kristen, Sabrena, Jenn, and Whitney—thank you for making the magic happen behind the scenes for my SLL letters and Instagram posts. Your creativity and dedication is pure JOY. I am so grateful for each of you! 

And to you, my dear readers and sponsors, I want you to know just how much I appreciate your continued support. Your encouragement means the world to me; you have helped “lovely living” grow internationally. Thank you! I look forward to meeting more of you in 2025! 

Xx 

Holly 

The Magic of Candlelight: Merry and Bright!

Rejoice for Candlelight! Candlelight symbolizes joy, romance, tranquility, and merriment. Christmas and the start of Hanukkah fall on the same day this year, December 25, 2024, so the topic of “candles” seems fitting. They have long been integral in celebrations, playing an essential part in the rituals of both Christmas and Hanukkah, and continue to have a magical essence while entertaining. 

A handsome Georgian Irish oval, candlelit mirror, c.1790, from Fileman Antiques, England., has transcended time with its classical design.

This holiday season, let's light more candles! They have a unique ability to create significant moments, transforming any gathering into something brilliant and celebratory. From churches to dinner parties and even atop birthday cakes, candles have been part of our celebrations for over 5,000 years.

As my Mummy always said, “A candlelit dinner magically becomes more memorable!” As a young bride, she shared a secret with me: “Candlelight makes whatever you’re serving taste even better!” That was a golden nugget; it has served me well for fifty years! 

Here is a candle secret for you for your dinner table! My dear friend, Janice Q. from Palm Beach, shared: "Candles should be tall enough that the flame is above your guests’ faces, so it doesn’t cast shadows. Holly, if you don’t believe me, try lighting a candle in a dark room and look at yourself in the mirror. The higher you place it, the better you’ll look!" I did, and guess what? She is right… an easy and magical way of flattering everyone at the table. Tonight, give it a whirl with taller candles! 

A Georgian, candlelit gilt girandole in the dining room at Fox Hall reflects the crystal chandelier in the distance.

GrandMillenial Tips

-Beware of air conditioning or open window breezes, which can wreak havoc on lit candles. I learned this lesson the hard way. An A/C vent in our Palm Beach home blew downward on the dining room wall sconces, causing the wax to drip onto the silk seats of a pair of Hepplewhite chairs. Let’s just say it was a rawwwther expensive dinner party!

Our dinner guest, the Duchess of Rutland, Emma Manners, in our dining room in Palm Beach, discussing the color on the ceiling. (Can you spy the vexing A/C vent above us?)

-Place your candles in front of a mirror to double the effect of your candles. This technique has been used for centuries to create a stunning visual display. Edith Wharton once said, “There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or… the mirror that reflects it.” While filming my television series with Lady Henrietta Spencer-Churchill, I marveled at the candlelit candelabras in front of a pair of pier mirrors placed between the windows in the private dining room at Blenheim Palace. You can see this in the PBS television series I hosted here. 

-For candle wax mishaps on your table, don’t fret! A rubber pancake spatula is forgiving and perfect for scraping wax drips off. It's a small trick that can save you from scratching your table with a knife.

A Forbidden Faux Pas

No-no: To have a white, unblackened wick on a candle. An old-school secret tradition I was taught is that candles should always have their “white wick” blackened before installing them in a candlestick holder, candelabra, or chandelier. This small but traditional secret detail indicates that a candle isn’t just for show— it is meant to be used.

Why are white or ivory candles still the most appropriate choice for formal settings? The reason behind this dates back to candle history. Candles were initially made from tallow (animal fat or oils), but beeswax was introduced in the Middle Ages as a more refined alternative. Beeswax candles have a natural honey color, but they were sun-bleached to a pale shade to make them more affordable. Due to their higher cost, white and ivory candles were considered luxurious and used primarily in noble residences, palaces, and churches. Today, white candles continue to evoke elegance and tradition, making them the perfect choice for any occasion. They are my candle color of choice. 

Embrace the beauty of candlelight, creating a festive and joyful atmosphere. May your holidays be merry and bright... with even more candlelight!

Thank you, dear ones, for your continued support and encouragement. I am genuinely grateful to all of you! 

Xx 

Holly

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"Holly-Day" Dinner Parties: How to be the hostess with the mostess!

Fox Hall, during the Christmas season, is magical, merry, and bright, especially in candlelight. My dear grandchildren decorated the table for this dinner party, hence the army of nutcrackers… I didn't know I had so many! 

The holidays are upon us, so here are some of my secrets for creating memories that are merry and bright for your guests! Hosting a dinner party (or inviting houseguests to stay over) is the best way to make your house sparkle… and a clever nudge to get all of the silver polished!

Unlock your front door and adhere a small card outside on the door, inviting guests to enter the house without knocking. I always write: “Please, do come in!” This way, they do not feel obliged to stand in the cold elements of Connecticut until the door is answered. 

Do your very best to greet each guest at the door. And vice versa. At the end of the evening, walk them to the door to say goodbye. 

Offer ladies to place their purses down on a chair or table, if they wish to.

Before your event, ask if your guests have any food dislikes or allergies, or if they are vegetarians. It's always better to know in advance and be prepared!

You may have guests who prefer non-alcoholic drinks; be sure to have something else to serve them. One of our friends adores ginger beer, a non-alcoholic drink that I keep on hand for him. 

The festive “holly” embellished linens were a hostess gift from a dear friend. I think of her every time I use them in December. This is a lovely gift-giving idea to remember!

Write your guest’s names on their placecards and take time to decide, when you have a moment, the best seating plan for conversation among your guests. The Gentleman guest of honor is seated to the right of the hostess. The Lady guest of honor is seated to the right of the host.  

Replenish your candlesticks, if they are less than halfway down, with new white candles. Remember, always to blacken the wicks… this is an old-school tradition! Blackened wicks indicate that you know candles are not just decorative accessories; they are used. 

Lower the lights in the evening, and remember, candlelight is not only romantic but also enhances everyone’s appearance AND makes everything taste better, too!

Wine bottles are either placed on a wine coaster or, more formally, poured into crystal decanters. Traditionally, a bottle of wine or decanter is placed on either end of the dining room table. My book, The Pretty and Proper Living Room, discusses this tradition in more detail. 

If there is no waitstaff, the host pours the wine. But if the host is in deep conversation or busy, any gentleman guest may take it upon himself to pour the wine for guests seated next to him, serving others before he serves himself.

For large parties, with guests that have never been to your house, have a little card indicating “Powder Room” on the door. It is thoughtful, especially if it is next to another door you don’t want anyone to enter. Guests do not want to have to ask. 

If you plan to have a fire in the fireplace, ensure your house remains cool enough that your guests, especially those seated near the fireplace, do not swelter from the heat.

Forbidden Faux Pas:

No-no: A centerpiece that is so high that it restricts guests' views of one another. Keep your centerpieces low so your guests can enjoy their conversation and have eye contact across the table with other guests.  

No-no: To have your dog or cat greet your guests. Your pets should be put away in another room. Not everyone is an animal lover, and some people may have allergies or be afraid of animals. (Miss Zsa Zsa, our Jack Russell Terrier, does not concur with this no-no!) 

No-no: To place your phone on the dining room table. If a guest has a babysitter or needs to be on call, they should tell the hostess they may need access to their phone and place it in their pocket or lap (with vibration on, no ringer).

No-no: Playing music too loud.  If dinner music is played, it should be so soft that everyone can carry on a normal conversation. Nothing is more disturbing than being unable to carry on a civilized conversation and being forced to raise one’s voice due to the overzealous sound of music. (We have all experienced that dreadful challenge at wedding receptions!)

May the joyful sound of laughter and merriment fill your house this season. Cheers! 

Xx

Holly

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The Magic of Petite Christmas Decorations!

For our first Christmas at Fox Hall, we went all out with a 15-foot live tree that touched the ceiling of our living room! But after two weeks, the branches became so stiff that when we went to take it down, our son had to use a chainsaw to get it out the door. That’s when we decided to switch to an artificial tree!

As we embrace and celebrate this joyous season, as in Norman Vincent Peale's words, “Christmas waves a magic wand over this world, and behold, everything is softer and more beautiful.” 

Use your magic wand to create a few charming “petite vignettes” to add a dash of magic to your home. I’ve found joy in creating sweet, small holiday displays that bring beauty and nostalgia to our home. Sometimes, the most treasured moments come in the tiniest packages, like tender loving gestures. Discovering a few lilliputian-sized, festive displays can be a treasured delight, adding to this season's magic, while conjuring the lovely memories of Christmases past. 

Every year, a collection of miniature Austrian bronze deer make a quiet appearance on the sideboard in our dining room. They graze peacefully near a tiny candle tree, a nod to the elegance and tranquility of Christmas.

Joy to the world! My childhood beloved set of angels, once owned by my grandmother, dance around a petite tree in the front hall. Their well-worn patina brings memories of the Velveteen Rabbit, and their simple charm never fails to inspire happy thoughts.

One of my most cherished traditions is winding up this miniature musical tree, a keepsake that fills the room with soft, sweet music. As the first note plays, I can almost feel my parents' presence with me in spirit, while I arrange the delicate hand-carved angel orchestra from Germany, each piece a reminder of love and tradition.

Even the tiniest touches can add festive cheer. I often place an ornament, like this little Herend bunny elf, on a tray of hors d’oeuvres. A dab of poster board clay at the base keeps it from tipping over, and the gold-tipped shoes add a whimsical, merry touch.

It’s the little things that count! Holiday memories are often made of small, meaningful moments. Whether it’s a cherished ornament or a family tradition,  petite decorations offer a graceful nod to the season's magic. May this holiday be sweeter than sugar plums, filled with joy, love, and treasured “little” moments.

Xx

Holly

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Glove Glam: Jewelry and Opera Gloves!

A pinnacle of regal elegance, HM The Late Queen Elizabeth II, remains in our hearts worldwide.

Photo Source: @british.royal.crown- Instagram 

It is December, the season of festive parties! If you are fortunate enough to be invited to a White-tie ball or a formal party, consider wearing opera-length gloves as an elegant accessory with your long gown. 

As the past Chair of the Salvation Army of Palm Beach County’s “Paradise Ball,” for their centennial White-tie celebration in 2022, I have received questions about the appropriateness of wearing jewelry on top of opera-length gloves. Opera-length gloves reach over the elbow and are the epitome of formal elegance. 

The answer is yes! One can wear a bracelet on top of an opera glove on either wrist. An evening bracelet may be worn over a glove, but not rings. Rings are worn underneath a glove.

Stuart and I attended an elegant “pink-themed” dinner dance with Lady Henrietta Spencer-Churchill at Blenheim Palace in Woodstock, England, this past July 2024. It was a most magical evening.
Photo credit: Mark Forbes. 

Here are a few etiquette guidelines when wearing opera-length gloves:

Can you drink with gloves on?

Yes, it is acceptable to drink with your gloves on. 

Can you eat with gloves on?

No! Eating with gloves on, whether standing or seated at a dining table, is not done. 

So, how does a lady eat when wearing opera gloves?

The mousquetaire “button” option allows one to unbutton the buttons under one's wrist and semi-remove one's gloves, so the hand is glove-free to dine. Once the buttons are undone, a lady can pull her hand out from the opening and neatly tuck the remainder of the glove up the wrist and inside the gloves.  

Alternatively, one may gracefully remove the gloves by gently pushing the arm portion toward the wrist while pulling each finger until the glove slips off.  

If the gloves do not have the mousquetaire buttons, where does one place the evening gloves once they are removed while seated at a formal dinner? 

After you remove your gloves, fold them in half and place them on your lap with your napkin over them. You may remove the gloves before being seated or at the dinner table. 

After dinner, one may put the gloves back on by placing the hand in and working the glove up from the wrist, then gradually smoothing the glove up the arm. Try not to pull from the top. 

May I wear gloves other than white?

Opera-length gloves can be made of leather, silk, or satin.  The most traditional, and my preference, are elegant “white leather, full-length opera gloves with mousquetaire.”  Cornelia James holds a Royal Warrant and made gloves for the late Queen Elizabeth for over 70 years.  

Do you want to cover your arm completely with your opera gloves?

No, a bit of your arm should be showing.  So, if you have a capped sleeve, you may wish to rouche the top of the opera-length glove down a bit because a portion of the arm should always be visible. 

Do you wear evening gloves while dancing?

Yes, indeed!

Should you wear your formal gloves when shaking hands or while standing in a receiving line? 

Yes, you may shake hands with evening gloves on, except when shaking hands with the President, the First Lady, or a high-ranking church or government official. 

Should you take your glove off when presenting your hand to be kissed? 

You may keep your glove on when a gentleman is kissing your hand. This is such a charming, old-world European tradition. I will never forget when my German son-in-law kissed my hand upon our first meeting… I thought to myself, "He is a keeper." And he is! 

When our youngest daughter Caroline (in white) made her debut at The Infirmary Ball in New York City, it was a few days before Christmas. Family and friends came from afar to celebrate with us, and it was the perfect occasion to wear opera-length gloves.

Discussing various aspects of old-world elegance is a delight and a gracious time when gentle manners mattered. Let’s keep these traditions alive!  

Xx 

Holly

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Holly's Secret Sourthern "Cheese Crispies"

These Cheese Crispies were made in the “dollop-style,” not perfectly rolled into little balls!

My Cheese Crispies are the perfect nibble to offer your guests upon arrival for cocktail hour. They are my signature hors d’oeuvre!  Not only are they delicious, but they are also easy to make, store well in the refrigerator, and freeze well. They never fail to garner oodles of compliments! 

This recipe is simple to remember:

1 cup + 1 cup + 1 cup + 1 stick of butter = only four ingredients 

(Add a few dashes of red pepper flakes, too)

You can make them ahead of time and either keep them in an airtight container in the refrigerator (they keep for a month) or place them in a Ziploc baggie and freeze them! 

You may reheat them in the oven, just long enough to be warm, but they are also delicious cold. Are you in a pinch for time, or do you have friends dropping in for an impromptu drink? Pull them out of the refrigerator and microwave for 30 seconds to quickly warm them. 

Holly’s Secret Southern “Cheese Crispies”

Heat oven to 350 degrees 

1 cup (filled up) sharp cheddar cheese at room temperature

1 cup all-purpose flour

1 stick of salted butter- softened

1 cup rice crispies 

Add a pinch of salt (optional) and a generous sprinkle of red pepper flakes.

Step 1: Mix everything in a food processor until a soft ball forms, except for the rice crispies. 

Step 2: Add a pinch of salt. Sprinkle in red pepper flakes to give as much “kick” as you desire!

Step 3: Pulse in the rice crispies until mixed in the dough. (You want the rice crispies to remain semi-crunchy!) 

Form the dough into teaspoon-sized balls or dollop a teaspoon-sized amount onto the greased cookie sheet. They can be placed ½” apart, as they don’t spread out. 

Sprinkle a little more red pepper flakes on top before baking. You can decide how spicy you want them! 

Bake at 350 degrees for about 8-14 minutes, until lightly browned.  

This makes about 24-30 balls, depending on the size. Serve warm, preferably.  

Note: Why not make two batches at a time while you're at it? Then, you’ll have some “inventory on hand” to serve at a moment's notice. 

These cheese crispies were rolled into little balls instead of dollops, but my mouse loves them either way! 

Let a little Herend mouse hop onto your serving plate for the perfect whimsical adornment. Your guests will gobble these up, I promise! Happy Thanksgiving! 

Xx 

Holly 

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THE Holly-Jolly Christmas Gift Guide!

My first book, The Pretty and Proper Living Room, now in its second printing, will be HALF PRICE for today and tomorrow, November 18th and 19th! (Retail $55, sale $28)  I wrote this book for my daughter, Alexandra, when she first married. She asked me how to decorate her first “big girl house” to look like the house she grew up in, and requested that I include the Forbidden Faux Pas too!   

Holly-Jolly Christmas Days! With a name like Holly, you can understand how much I adore this magical time of year. 'Tis the season of giving. Many of you have asked me to share some of my go-to gift items… so Ho-Ho-Ho, let’s go! 

 🎄Holly’s Gifts 2024 🎄
(Presents for both naughty and nice!)

1. A set of four Sterling Silver Studs are handsomely detailed with an enameled design and made in England. Their price point makes them perfect for traveling over “Hill and Dale” to a Black tie event anywhere in the world! 

2. A pair of classic Fox Head men's slippers (a staple at Fox Hall!) are comfy for lounging and stunningly attractive. They would be perfect for twirling around the Christmas tree and kissing under the mistletoe. 

3. This dapper Nickle Fox Head Umbrella will be a well-appointed accessory for your sleigh, ready to fend off rain or snow elegantly. It will also be a smashing addition to a front-door umbrella stand.

4. Here is a clever “town & country”  accessory- a pair of Sterling Silver and Enamel Fox Head Cufflinks. They give a quiet, yet sensibly sly, nod to England, even though they are handmade in Italy!  

5. I inherited Mummy’s gold Christmas Tree, just like this one. It is, without a doubt, my most favorite Christmas decoration. Once it is on our coffee table on December first, I almost hear the angels singing! It is such a lovely gift for someone who has everything.  

6. Happy tulips!  A set of pink round tablemats and coasters say “Happy Spring” all year long! I adore these because I can quickly set the table, wipe them off as needed (as in when the grandchildren visit!), and also feel that I am in an English country house, even in Palm Beach. They are a timeless classic for your table any time of day. 

7. For that “special” son or son-in-law, this set of Mother of Pearl and Sapphire Studs will be a handsomely festive gift that will last a lifetime. 

8. I adore Weezie Towels! Their Bow Towel is perfect for a powder room, as well as the kitchen. They are soft and beautifully appointed with various monogram styles, including applique, and feature a sweet edging to complement your color scheme.  My video about “whose initials go first for a married couple’s monogram” for their Master Bedroom and Bathroom towels is on Instagram. 

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9. This enchanting hat, by designer Leslie Dasch’s fabulous brand, “Dress for Cocktails,”features a stylish array of preppy-colored bows that can be magnetically interchanged to complement any outfit. I adore her hats in Palm Beach and in New England. When Leslie created a “Holly Holden Bow” in my signature pink edged in green, I was tickled pink! If you order her hat with a Holly Bow, you will also receive a free additional bow in the color of your choice too! A ribbon inside the hat adjusts the size, allowing it to fit anyone properly. Use code: HOLLYHOLIDAY when ordering from their website. 
 

The vendors above offer stellar products and charmingly professional customer service. I am proud to share my 10 secret gift choices with you!  If you want to give yourself a stylish gift, order a divinely bespoke or ready-to-wear outfit, peek at: Holly Holden Collection with Gramercy Atelier. You will be the sparkle at any event. 

Happy Christmas, as they say in England! 

Xx

Holly

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Patricia's Apple Pie

At a recent dinner party in Palm Beach, I served this pie recipe and, as usual, it was a resounding hit! 

As a bride of 21, Stuart and I drove to Michigan after our honeymoon, where my darling new husband studied for his MBA.  It was a long way from my home in Virginia. We moved into not-so-glamorous married-student housing, which to us, was glorious! We didn’t know a soul there.   Gratefully, Stuart introduced me to one of his classmates, Ricardo Mayer, and his wife, Patricia, another newlywed couple from Rio de Janeiro. They instantly became (lifelong)  friends, and are Godparents to our son. 

Patricia and I decided to host a dinner every other Saturday night so we could learn to cook various dishes, with the prerequisite being that we had to cook something we had never made before. Well, we had some interesting high and low notes, as you can imagine!  But, one dessert Patricia made in particular was a huge hit… simply divine! We forever referred to it as “Patricia’s Apple Pie!”

A year later, we moved to Connecticut, where I joined the Junior League. One evening, a member called me before their big “bake-off” competition event and asked me to contribute a dessert. It was late, but I just happened to have the cream cheese and apples, and the other ingredients are always a constant in my kitchen. So, that night, I made “Patricia’s Apple Pie.”

Guess what… I WON!🎉

The Hartford Courant Newspaper was there to cover the story and photograph me with the winning dessert!  They asked if I would share my recipe.  I thought it was an old family recipe, so I felt obliged to ask Patricia first before I gave it away.  I rang her in Rio, and with her charming South American accent, she said, “Oh, Holy, (love how she pronounces my name!) no, this is not a family recipe. I cut it out of a Philadelphia Cream Cheese advertisement in The New York Times!” I responded, “Really? Ha, I had no idea!” I tweaked the recipe just enough for it to officially become “Patricia’s” Apple Pie, and it is indeed, a WINNER!

While there are three steps to making it, it is easy to do the second time after you have made it once.  It looks more like a tart or deep-dish pie than a traditional “pie.”  This is our family’s most favorite apple dessert; it is always served at Thanksgiving, along with a pumpkin pie, of course!

Patricia’s Apple Pie!

Heat the oven to 450 degrees.

Part I

½ cup butter

⅓ cup sugar

¼ tsp vanilla

½  tsp almond extract 

1 cup all-purpose flour

Part II

8 oz cream cheese, softened

¼ cup sugar

1 egg

½ tsp vanilla

½ tsp almond extract

Part III

¾ cup sugar

2 tsp cinnamon 

Dash of ground cloves or allspice

3-5 peeled apples, sliced

Optional: ¼ cup sliced almonds

Step I: Cream butter, sugar, vanilla and almond extract with an electric mixer. Blend in flour. Spread on the bottom and sides of a 9” springform pan. 

Step II: Beat the cream cheese and sugar with an electric mixer until smooth. Add the egg, vanilla, and almond extracts and pour the mixture into a pastry-lined springform pan. 

Step III: Combine sugar, cinnamon, and cloves in a bowl. Press each apple slice into this mixture and arrange in circles over the cream cheese mixture until the entire surface is covered. (This is the time consuming part!) Optional: Sprinkle with sliced almonds. 

Bake at 450 degrees for 10 minutes.  Then reduce heat to 400 degrees and bake for 25-35 minutes, or more, until lightly browned.

- FYI Place the springform pan on a baking sheet lined with foil because occasionally some butter leaks out while baking. This will save you from cleaning it up on the bottom of the oven! 

Let it cool a bit before using a knife to loosen the sides of the pie. Then, remove the collar of the springform pan. Do not try to remove the bottom of the pan; just serve from it. I place the pie onto a pretty serving plate to serve.  

Here is my Instagram version!

This is incredibly yummy when served warm with a dollop of French Vanilla ice cream! I hope you enjoy it too, any time of year. Thank YOU, Patricia!

Xx

Holly

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